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To not drive for 20 mins (and back) to meet my sister?

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gBean Sat 19-Dec-15 15:56:33

I ordered a phone for my sister as my firm did a partnership Thing with Apple so she got it cheaper. It arrived today and she wants me to drive for 20-25 mins (and back) to meet her halfway to hand it over.

I've been on my own all day with three kids and a puppy, after a long hard week in a new demanding job and I feel like I'm coming down with a cold.

Sis is ill with urine infection, has a toddler and a newborn.

I can't decided if IABU. She won't start using the phone straight away, but she needs the charger. I want to suggest she buys one from a supermarket for a tenner. I've offered to meet her on Monday...

witsender Sat 19-Dec-15 15:57:46

20 mins from isn't long. But equally it isn't essential... So I'm on the fence!

gBean Sat 19-Dec-15 15:58:33

Yy same. It's 40 mins really with the return journey. But even so it's not horrendous

HermioneWeasley Sat 19-Dec-15 16:01:22

Your poor sister - I can't believe she's offering to drive half way with a UTI and a newborn. She must really want it - have a heart

Oldraver Sat 19-Dec-15 16:03:08

You're both feeling poorly, the fecking phone can wait for another day

gBean Sat 19-Dec-15 16:03:43

But she only wants the charger! She could pick one up 5 mins from home

Janeymoo50 Sat 19-Dec-15 16:04:12

Hmmm, I would on this occasion but maybe not tonight, tomorrow morning as a compromise?? A toddler, newborn and urine infection....ouch!

Ilikedmyoldusernamebetter Sat 19-Dec-15 16:05:22

Hmmm... that's not ridiculously far, but she's a bit cheeky to ask IMO as you've done her a favour by buying it for her and she doesn't need it desperately...

It would be a nice thing to do, but she shouldn't expect it.

Will you have to take all 3 kids with you for the hand over, or is your partner home now? Will it mess up your evening with dinner baths and bed being pushed back and ending up cooking dinner when you get in, kids getting cross and hungry or falling asleep without eating, or will your partner cook for you and have it ready when you get home? I imagine you'll be gone longer than an hour unless you're just going to fling the charger at her from the car window?

I guess I'd do it if it didn't mess my entire evening up, as it potentially could, and was just literally a 40 minute drive without the kids and with partner cooking dinner while I was out... otherwise not. Sister's attitude would also effect my decision - wouldn't do it if she just expected it and didn't appreciate she was asking a medium sized favour.

Raxacoricofallapatorius Sat 19-Dec-15 16:08:28

I'd do it. Christmas songs on in the car, blankets and snacks. Spot Christmas lights and trees on the way. Make it an adventure.

In fact, I'd probably drive the whole way and back. A uti and a newborn is a combination I never, ever want to experience again.

gBean Sat 19-Dec-15 16:08:30

Dh is at work and I'd have to take youngest with me (he's 7 with additional needs and DD (16) can't look after him). It would be inconvenient but not terrible iykwim. She IS expecting it and is most put out that I said no initially and then that i would see what I could do.

SueDunome Sat 19-Dec-15 16:09:22

If it were me, I would drive the full forty minutes to deliver it to her so she doesn't have to drive. Your poor sister is ill, has a newborn, and it's less than a week to Christmas. I would be wanting her to get better fast. For me, it would be worth it for the newborn cuddles alone.

EvaBING Sat 19-Dec-15 16:11:12

20 minutes drive?
YABU

LuluJakey1 Sat 19-Dec-15 16:12:25

Can her DP not come and get it?

LuluJakey1 Sat 19-Dec-15 16:13:37

You don't really want to be cuddling a newborn if you are coming down with something.

gBean Sat 19-Dec-15 16:17:49

I'd suggested her dp come with the 3yo, she could snuggle up at home with newborn. I'd have to just hand it over and leave as don't want to give her/the baby my Cold. Her dp is busy, appaz

CherryPits Sat 19-Dec-15 16:26:24

If you have a cold, let it wait until you're better - you don't want to make them all ill and you could do, just from turning up. Sorted.

specialsubject Sat 19-Dec-15 16:29:48

what's the rush? This is possibly the least essential errand ever. Wait until someone is better and able to concentrate properly on driving.

Artandco Sat 19-Dec-15 16:30:25

I would go. It's a short journey. Will give you all a change of scenery.

If you just go you will be back by the time you have sat on here debating whether to go or not

KinkyAfro Sat 19-Dec-15 16:33:12

Jeez, surely she can wait a day or so, it's not essential is it? Neither of you sound like you should be out so wait until you're both feeling better

lorelei9 Sat 19-Dec-15 16:34:52

what's the urgency? Just both of you stay at home till you feel better - and I hope you both feel better asap.

SoWhite Sat 19-Dec-15 16:41:01

I'd do it. Sister sounds like she's having a hard time.

JennyOnAPlate Sat 19-Dec-15 16:43:47

I have a feeling the newborn and ruined infection trumps you op.

JennyOnAPlate Sat 19-Dec-15 16:44:04

Ruined??? Urine!!

diddl Sat 19-Dec-15 16:46:43

Good grief!

Wait until you are both better!

Perhaps her OH can get her a charger if really necessary?

If I was nearby I'd happily bung her one of mine for the time being.

DarkRoots Sat 19-Dec-15 16:47:38

Ah just do it and feel nice about yourself.
Yes, she can wait, but 'tis crimbo and she has a newborn! Bring along some cranberry juice and call it a Christmas miracle. You'll feel all aglow (maybe!)

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