Have name changed for this as potentially outing. My mother has a lovely habit of making everything about her. Granted she's 52 and works full time as well as having a hobby that earns her money. When I was 25 she decided she didn't want me living in shared accommodation and so offered to join me in getting a mortgage. I put in 20 grand and she put in 60 we have 141 grand left to pay off. 8 years later me and my husband and our 2 children live in the house. We have a 25% share in the property she has 75%. We pay her £800 a month and some of the bills on top. She pays the remainder of the bills. The monthly mortgage payments are £500 so she pays whatever is supplementary to the extra 300 that we pay. She won't tell me how much that is exactly as she has a history of treating me like a child about how it leaves her with no money left at the end of the month. She does live rent free with her partner but frequently points out spend all of her money on keeping me in a home.
This morning she came over and asked me what I have done yesterday day as I work 20 hours over 2.5 days a week and the rest of the time I'm free as I have a 2 year old and a 7 year old. The two year old goes to nursery on the days I work but is it home with me the rest of the time and I do the usual school drop-off and pick-ups for my oldest. I told her I'd spend the day cleaning and looking after my 2 year old she told me I was so lucky that I get to clean and genuinely meant this and then went off in a rant about how she lives in a s* hole because she has to work all the time to pay for me and how she won't ever be able to retire because of this. I tried offering her more money although to be honest we don't really have a significant amount leftover at the end of the month but we get by ok.
She also said to everyone who will listen that she frequently baby-sits for me however the truth face she has looked after one child maybe 4 times for a couple of hours this year and only on one occasion did I actually go out. The other was parents evening and when my other child was in hospital overnight in February. I don't mind not having much hands on help but I do wish she wouldn't tell everyone lies about how involved she is. Am I being unreasonable to think that whilst monetary wise she does help out significantly that doesn't necessarily make my life so much easier than hers?
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Gettingtired · 18/12/2015 13:17
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