Basically me and DH decided in about July that we wanted to start TTC when we got back off honeymoon in October. We want children so much and have really been looking forward to us starting a family.
Stupidly we got a bit carried away with it all and didn't really consider the financial implications of me being on Mat leave (I only get statutory mat pay). Bit of misunderstanding between the 2 of us as he thought I would get more and as a result after 1st month off the pill we did the math and realised just how screwed we would be financially if I get pregnant any time within the next 6 months.
All our savings went on paying for the wedding so we have no savings at all to fall back on/use to top up mat pay. I also would only get statutory sick pay if I needed any time off due to illness with pregnancy etc. Unfortunately I work for a small family run independent business so get the minimum of everything!!
As a result of a very tearful (me) conversation we have decided to postpone TTC for at least 6 months so we can build up some more savings and then hopefully I'll have a chance of having a decent length mat leave without money being quite as tight. I know we are doing the right thing and the last thing I want is to put added pressure/strain on our relationship by us having financial difficulties but I feel devastated that something I was looking forward to so much and so desperately want now can't happen for at least another 6 months. A positive is that a couple of things we pay out monthly are due to end in April (credit card and sofas) so we will be about £200 a month better off from then which can be saved so there is some light at the end of the tunnel.
I suppose I feel a bit unreasonable for feeling so gutted about something that I know is the right decision and annoyed that we didn't realise this before getting swept away with it all. I've felt so down in the past few days since we discussed it I can't seem to snap myself out of it. Thanks for reading if you've got this far :)
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happybus28 · 14/12/2015 12:38
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