This is my first AIBU post. I have lived in my current house for nine years and in that time my bil has never visited.
I am very close to my dsis and see her fairly regularly. However, she always visits alone, even on Christmas day, she will visit and bring presents in the morning and then spend the rest of Christmas day and boxing day at his parents. My dsis will say that my bil has gone for a walk (instead of accompanying her). They only live 15 mins drive away, so not a long journey.
I have invited them both over, but it is always declined and my dsis makes excuses saying that he is not social (understatement). On the very rare occasions that I have been invited over with my family (I can think of two occasions in this time), he is often upstairs at his computer for the majority of the time!
I have mostly got used to this situation, but it is times like Christmas when it starts to grate on me a lot. My DF is also currently terminally ill and has statistically 12-18 months left. He is also treated in the exact same way and it always falls to me to have my DF at Christmas (my DM passed away over 5 years ago and I wouldn't want him to be alone).
By the way, I should point out that we have had no falling out to make him behave this way. Sorry if this sounds moany, but I would appreciate other views. My DH is so unimpressed by his lack of effort that he feels like boycotting an invitations we may ever get now out of principle.
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AIBU?
To think that my bil is rude, if not odd
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herdiegirl · 08/11/2015 22:57
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