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jamesdeandaydream Wed 04-Nov-15 23:29:33

I sent half naked pics to an ex. I've put on weight and carried/given birth to a baby since I last saw him. He hasn't replied. I want to cry.

I thought the photos looked ok but the more I look, the more I can see the imperfections and I wish I hadn't sent them. Oh good god what have I done.

honeyroar Wed 04-Nov-15 23:32:24

How long ago did you send them? Had you been flirting first? I'm just trying to understand why you would. But on a positive note, I think that men don't see half as many imperfections as we do.

Do you see him in real life much? If he doesn't respond would you have to face him? If not don't worry!

Fatmomma99 Wed 04-Nov-15 23:32:59

I am absolutely sure your body is beautiful. He's a wanker.

You've carried and given birth to a baby!

That's your priority, and your baby will think you're amazing.

Move on. He has lost out!

ghostyslovesheep Wed 04-Nov-15 23:33:04

oh sweety - I bet you look fine but seriously - why would you do that!

please don't put so much store in his approval

Farandole Wed 04-Nov-15 23:33:24

Oh dear, so sorry for you. Try not to worry about it - is he a decent man or not?

<holds hand>

catfordbetty Wed 04-Nov-15 23:35:01

Not a good idea. Whether he responds or not, keep your fingers crossed that he doesn't share them. What were you thinking?

TheHouseOnTheLane Wed 04-Nov-15 23:35:02

Fuck him OP! Forget it immediately.

trapdooragain Wed 04-Nov-15 23:37:11

text say sorry wrong man grab your dignity and run?

jamesdeandaydream Wed 04-Nov-15 23:37:38

He's replied with a photo. It's all good. I have no idea what I was thinking honestly! Oh god. Never again.

NotTheSpiceOfLife Wed 04-Nov-15 23:40:31

What sort of a photo wink

TheHouseOnTheLane Wed 04-Nov-15 23:42:38

Is he nudey in the pic OP? grin

jamesdeandaydream Wed 04-Nov-15 23:43:58

Yes it's not the sort you'd display on the mantlepiece that's for sure grin

Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost Wed 04-Nov-15 23:46:30

Oh Dear. Well I know one thing you certainly can't unsend them and I don't think anyone looks anywhere near as bad on pictures than they believe they do.
But without sounding awful where on earth is your self respect. I mean sending naked pictures to a current partner is while not my style is one thing but to an ex is very much another.
Do you want him back. If so then disrespecting your self by sending half naked pictures is not the best way to go about it.
Because you sent those pictures for a reason.
If you want him back or are feeling a bit down. We're here to hold your hand and advise you as best you can. But you need to know that you don't need to resort to sending part naked pictures to an ex.
If you want a reconciliation or even just regular meet ups then text him. Invite him around for coffee and to talk. If he refused well ztv least you know where you stand, and you have had his love. It's not as though it is unrequited love, and if a reconciliation is not on the cards, then. Although it may take time you move on and one day the right man will come along because he's out there somewhere
He hasn't replied. Does he even have the same mobile

jamesdeandaydream Wed 04-Nov-15 23:46:40

I never knew you there was a type of extreme embarrassment where your entire face and jaw goes numb until tonight. I've learnt so much!

catfordbetty Wed 04-Nov-15 23:46:54

it's not the sort you'd display on the mantlepiece

Useful insurance.

TheHouseOnTheLane Wed 04-Nov-15 23:47:32

Are you hoping to rekindle things OP?

Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost Wed 04-Nov-15 23:48:51

Oh just seen your update. Glad he's got back to you

jamesdeandaydream Wed 04-Nov-15 23:54:23

No I don't want him back. We were basically friends with benefits and at the moment we're both single and hoping to meet up this weekend for sex a catch up. I've sent him pics before (don't judge me). At least he's replied even if he is secretly thinking I look like a whale.

Pancake2015 Wed 04-Nov-15 23:54:38

Life lesson learnt, ey? Dont ever send pics like that, to anyone. Ever.

My ex boyfriend (when together) asked me to send a pic in my nicks. So i sent hi. a close up of the brand of nicks i was wearing. He was obviously secretly disappointed and asked me to send one with my nicks off. So i put a pair of nicks on the floor and took a pic. Technically, it was a pic of my nicks off. I couldnt move for laughing.
He never did get a rudey pic of me.

sleeponeday Thu 05-Nov-15 00:03:32

He doesn't think you look like a whale, you daft wuzzock. He was probably otherwise engaged after getting them, then had to locate some tissues take a pic of his own.

Wouldn't ever send them, though. I don't trust anyone alive that much. And I've been married over a decade, and with DH almost twice that. Never send a photo you'd mind your mother, boss, and the bloke next to you on a train seeing. Because people are arseholes, and sadly, sometimes they are people you would previously have trusted with your life. Many threads on Relationships evidence this.

sleeponeday Thu 05-Nov-15 00:03:57

Pancake that is beautiful. grin

icelollycraving Thu 05-Nov-15 00:05:59

I don't think it's about self respect ^
Lots of people do it,it's not the wisest move but good god there's little point making her feel worse. I suspect meeting for a coffee isn't quite what she was hoping for!
If you're going to do naked pics,make sure you aren't identifiable is my only advice.

icelollycraving Thu 05-Nov-15 00:08:48

pancake that reminded me of the time a guy I'd been talking to online sent me a picture of him wanking on the side of his bath. He wanted a great picture of my hot pussy. I sent one.
My cat was very photogenic.

Pancake2015 Thu 05-Nov-15 00:24:12

Icelolly haha ive done that one too. He also used the phrase "send me a pic of ya bush" (how lovely) so i sent a pic of my christmas tree

SoleBizzzz Thu 05-Nov-15 00:45:04

Pancake grin

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