Aibu to hate this attitude? On the whole my oh is great. We did have a patch where he was extremely lazy with housework and lo. As in he did nothing. He's over that now but occasionally can be a bit lazy.
Sometimes I needed/need to just vent if I'm tired or something to friends or online. On another site on my birth board too many times I get maybe 2 supportive people but the rest say things like "that's nothing, my oh hasn't done anything since dc was born". Or "I haven't had a lay in for 3 years". Or (my favourite) "think yourself lucky your oh does anything at all". Why should I feel lucky for that? I'm grateful for everything he does for us as he is for everything I do. But I think this should be the norm rather than having to feel lucky. I have a friend in rl who is like that too.
Aibu to hate this attitude? And to think that being lazy shouldn't have to be acceptable in my relationship just because it is in other's?
AIBU?
My problems are so much worse than yours!
Fratelli · 03/11/2015 06:12
Yanbu this winds me up.
As does the 'my dh does exactly 50% (worked out to the minute) and of yours doesn't then why wouldn't you ltb'
My sil is like mrstarg sil. Her birth was worse, her kids sleep worse (except sometimes they sleep like angels as well
) , he experience of being a sahm is more difficult than mine, they are more skint than we are, her wedding was more stressful than hers etc.
Tbh I avoid people like this. Personally I thinks it's a very selfish behaviour.
My line manager does this. I have never yet had a problem resolved by speaking to her; meetings always turn into a counselling session .
Oh no Tallyloolah that's awful! I don't know why you're still friends with that person either!
Enjolrass our SILs could be the same person, except that mine works full time and that is, of course, a billion and a half times harder than what I do (SAHM, also work from home on a sort of contractual basis). Also I am married to her brother, so often have to hear the same gripes about SILs dire finances due to no fault of her own/children who don't sleep at night but are nevertheless incredibly intelligent and have great leadership potential, again, from my MIL who repeats this stuff like its gospel (despite being otherwise a likeable person)...all this is annoying but what really rankles is when my I feel like I'm being drawn into a stupid pointless competition about whose children are better at specific things, when none of them are even old enough to be at school yet.
Am sorely tempted to just speak my mind on the subject next time and hang the consequences...except that my DH has almost begged me not to 
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I think sometimes it is people trying to show they understand but they misjudge it slightly.
OTOH I think we all have a friend who's been to Elevenerife
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