BIL is getting married on a Friday. We have two DC, one nursery and one reception. School aged DC will have to miss school to come with us. To be honest, I'd assumed we just wouldn't bring the children to the wedding (and my DM would look after them). We had a family wedding on my side this year and PIL looked after the kids as, to be honest, it would have been no fun for me, keeping two small people entertained for hours in a venue much more suited for adults.
So - MIL is livid that DC1 can't be there to be a flower girl. I said BIL and his fiancée should have thought about that before booking their wedding on a Friday in the middle of term. She also doesn't like me standing up to her and telling her that I don't want the kids at the wedding as I'll just end up looking after them whilst everyone else enjoys themselves. To be honest, it would be easier to stay at home with them!
DH doesn't want to upset his DB, mainly. However, he is also surprised that they booked a Friday slot and then wanted the kids to be there. DBIL is younger than us and pretty clueless when it comes to kids. He hasn't done this maliciously, he just doesn't think. I don't want to cause family WW3 but to me, it's inappropriate to take DC1 out of school. And if I were to concede and allow this (but won't we get fined?) - how do I not end up lumbered with being the primary child carer for the whole event? It's in the middle of nowhere, very rural and there's FA to do with kids. I feel like DH's family think I'm making excuses - I've done my research and being practical, the easiest option is for DH and I to go without the kids, or for DH to go alone.
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Namechangenell · 28/10/2015 16:52
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