I've name changed for this but I'm a regular.
My daughter divorced her husband about 8 years ago because of terrible abusive behaviour. They have a daughter together who is now 10, he has never paid maintenance. He always said she had her maintenance in the form of a lump sum she received from the marital home which she left when his behaviour became very nasty.
She's been through the CSA or whatever they call themselves now but they accepted his lies about not earning enough money, (he's a self employed joiner) and has a very nice comfortable lifestyle.
The only time my dgd gets anything is birthdays and Christmas when he spends money on things of his choice, not hers.
Anyway my dgd is going on a school trip very soon which my DD has paid for (she works but doesn't earn much), however she has a list of required clothing for this trip which my DD is struggling to pay for. I've helped out as much as I can but there was still a fair bit to get.
My DD decided to ask her ex if he could contribute something. I wasn't holding my breath because she's often asked in the past for similar and gets refused. He sees Dgd every fortnight so today when DD was dropping her off she asked him. Amazingly he agreed, and asked for the list and said he would take dgd and buy the last bits, which came to about £40.
All well and good but my DD has just told me that the b*d has informed her that the cost of what he's bought will come out of her Christmas money.
I want to phone him up to have a rant but my DD said don't. I'm sorry but I've ranted on here instead. I need to calm down. She gets fk all in maintenance all year and he's begrudging a lousy 40 quid for her school trip. Aibu to be livid. Sorry for the long post.
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To be fuming at the cheek of DDs ex husband.
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magicmotown · 18/10/2015 21:39
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