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I am involved in a community group for children and a few times a year we run fundraising events. Sometimes it's for the children to do activities, sometimes for charities. Occasionally, we need to ask for help from parents because the ratio requirements of adult to child are higher when you're out and about than they are when you're in the usual meeting place. It's difficult sometimes to get a commitment from anyone to help. From a potential pool of 50-60 mums and dads you'll maybe get 3 or 4 offers of help. For this reason I may be being unreasonable in being annoyed at what's happened. Generally speaking, we are grateful when we get any offers of help.
Yesterday, we were running a fundraising event and a couple of the parents had agreed to stay, others were dropping their children off to help (this is fine, no issue with this at all). One mother in particular volunteered to help for a short while and tbh as mean as it sounds the adults who run the group gave a collective sigh.
The mother is princess pushy. Her DD has to have the best of everything, she has to be involved in everything and as such a lot of the interactions we have with her as part of the group are trying to placate her 'pushiness'. Her DD is a difficult child to have as part of a group, but manageable. She is demanding but certainly not the worst! As part of this fundraising event, the mother offered to make something to sell. We knew there would be a catch (because there always is with this woman) but we didn't have a whole lot of choice but to accept (can you imagine trying to explain why she couldn't?!).
Yesterday, she turns up with her creation and proceeded to try to take over the whole event. She changed things one of the regular helpers had put a lot of hard work into, refused to allow the children to handle some of the things we had arranged for them to do and was generally rude and bossy. She would probably not see herself this way, she would think she is kooky and energetic. She couldn't just turn up and help as we needed it. She was rude and talked a million miles an hour.
AIBU to be annoyed with this woman even though she did put some effort into making something for the event? Do you think we have to be gracious and accept her help without a word even though it pisses off all the other adults who give their time weekly? We are reaching the end of our collective tether with her.
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AIBU about this parent becoming overinvolved and pissing people off?
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GabiSolis · 10/10/2015 15:52
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