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To spend so much on a hotel for dh's 40th next year?

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EmmaU123 Fri 14-Aug-15 20:25:53

Basically my MiL and FiL have agreed to have our three children next May whilst I take dh away for three days to the Lake District. I wanted to really treat him considering it's his birthday and we haven't had a night out I thisbjosie alone in over 4 h'years and we've had a really shit year. I found an absolutely stunning hotel in Ambleside, it has every mid con, ie jacuzzi, stunning decor, circular rotating bed (lol), whirlpool bath that lights up and has a docking station so that you can playing lovely romantic music, mood lighting throughout the suite and best of all a completely free cocktail bar and mini bar.

Now like I said I've splashed out and it has cost me £840 for the weekend. Now to us that is slashing out as we aren't well off, at all but I've got 8 months to save up for it and we only have to pay on arrival (already paid £200 deposit) so it is doable. But I told my sister about it and all I got was hostility and her quizzing me about "how on earth we would afford it" and why why would I want to spend so much! I can't help feel a bit peeved with her as she's knows it a special occasion and what's more, it's got nothing to do with we really has it? It's like she never wants us to be happy as one odd occasion we've had something nice come out way she's always had something negative to say, so Aibu to rather peeved?

EmmaU123 Fri 14-Aug-15 20:27:19

Excuse the typos, I pressed submit by accident before reading it through.

Findtheoldme Fri 14-Aug-15 20:28:55

Ask her what it has got to do with her and don't allow her to spoil it.

GoooRooo Fri 14-Aug-15 20:29:29

YANBU. She is jealous. How you spend your own money is completely up to you.

It sounds fabulous by the way smile

charlie0123 Fri 14-Aug-15 20:31:08

We went there for our 25wedding anniversary in March. Do it do it do it. It's stunning

charlie0123 Fri 14-Aug-15 20:32:10

It's as good as you think and the reading room is amazing

grapejuicerocks Fri 14-Aug-15 20:32:51

Yep just jealous

so am I what a waste of money.

Waffles80 Fri 14-Aug-15 20:33:46

Oh link link link, please! Also looking for something special for my DH.

CloserToFiftyThanTwenty Fri 14-Aug-15 20:35:39

We did something v similar for a similar reason at a similar cost - it was lovely and your SiL is being a killjoy!

ReginaFelangi Fri 14-Aug-15 20:35:39

It's costing me less to take DH and the DCs to Iceland for a week for his.

That said, I paid about £600 for a hotel in Windermere for his 30th. (Wonder if it's the same one.)

Waffles80 Fri 14-Aug-15 20:35:50

And also, YANBU!

ReginaFelangi Fri 14-Aug-15 20:36:26

(In what way is a "rotating circular bed" a mod con?!)

EmmaU123 Fri 14-Aug-15 20:36:56

Lol. Well she's no need to be jealous really, she's got tons of money do goes to far more exotic places than the Lake District, although she is a single parent so whether that's something to do with it I don't know? But to be fair she should just be happy for us shouldn't she? I mean we've gone years without a night away never mind three nights lol.

starburst1979 Fri 14-Aug-15 20:37:18

Ya so nbu!! Please tell me the name...have a big wedding anniversary coming up and it sounds perfect!

Bluecheese22 Fri 14-Aug-15 20:37:43

Sounds amazing!!

EmmaU123 Fri 14-Aug-15 20:38:17

I put lol after the rotating circular bed, it isn't really a mod con at all but it's something newsmile

AuditAngel Fri 14-Aug-15 20:39:35

We went on a 2 week cruise without the DC for our joint 40th, that cost more than £840

moggiek Fri 14-Aug-15 20:41:30

Sounds great. Tell her to wind her neck in. Hope you and DH have a blast!

DurhamDurham Fri 14-Aug-15 20:41:57

I can't see how it's any of her business, don't let it bother you. I went to New York for my 40th........having said that we couldn't all afford to go so I went with my oldest dd and my husband took out youngest dd to Spain to have a holiday in the sun. We were all happy, lots of people thought it was an odd thing to do but as long as it's right for your family that's all that matters smile

chrome100 Fri 14-Aug-15 20:43:04

YANBU. It's a special treat.

I actually live in Ambleside and know the hotel you mean, it's v nice.

That said, I once splashed out on a four star hotel in London to treat DP. It was nice, but I kind of wished I'd spent less when we got there as we didn't spend much time in it and actually the best memories I have is where we've just roughed it in hostels.

IAmAPaleontologist Fri 14-Aug-15 20:43:07

which hotel is it? i need to be nosy.
me and dh splashed out on one of the posh rooms at crab manor a few months ago, sometimes you just have to. was amazing.

FinallyHere Fri 14-Aug-15 20:44:27

Sounds perfect to me. Enjoy. xx

P.s. Just ignore anyone who tries to take the shine off it for you, they are just jealous of what you have, poor things.

EmmaU123 Fri 14-Aug-15 20:50:35

Lol it's called the Langdale Hotel. The suites we are staying in are currently still being built so no pictures are available only plans and details of want the suite includes . They are adding a massive extension onto the hotel and adding some luxury suites, booking was already open when I looked so I thought I'd jump in and get it reserved.

We have three kids, one with suspected additional needs so going to New York or on a cruise is out of the question although me and dh funnily enough were about to book New York for my 30th birthday September 2010 but I found out i was pregnant with ds in the August and ended up being hospitalised so that went out of the windowsad lol.

EmmaU123 Fri 14-Aug-15 20:51:55

Do you mean Criag Manor? In Bowness? Lol. We've stayed there a couple of times and it was fab x

MTWTFSS Fri 14-Aug-15 20:52:04

YA definitely NBU!!! You enjoy!!! Life is too short!!!

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