I'm on Mat. Leave with DD, 8 months. A friend came over to visit from Germany yesterday and staying with is until Saturday (she's visiting other UK friends after.) We had been planning to go out on Friday night and let DH take DD. This is the first time I've had the chance to have an evening out without DD. (We're new in our area and don't know anyone so I don't normally have anyone to go out with.)
Now DH tells me he will be an hour or two late from work on Friday because his brother wants to go for a drink. He says he temporarily forgot that it was Friday I was going out, but that he will be home by nine. (Usually home at seven). BIL had apparently sounded 'weird' and 'down' on the phone. MIL also called, asking DH to see BIL, as he had sounded 'almost tearful' on the phone to her.
I asked DH to call and try to clarify if there was something serious going on, and he had apparently just laughed it off, saying 'I just need a girlfriend!' but reiterated that he really wanted to see DH for a drink. (They don't usually do this.) DH is going and says he will be back before ten.
Now, I have been up with DD (who doesn't sleep) every night since she was born. I'm fine with this, but was really looking forward to not being the main carer for just one evening. If DH comes home late, sure, there's still time to go out, but after a whole day of childcare and going round town with my friend I will probably be too tired. I usually go to bed around 10.
I do realise that BIL may really need someone to talk to urgently. It's also quite possible that he just wants to meet up to have a moan about his dead-end job and his lack of love life. That's fine, but could be done another night! Because he won't talk about it on the phone, I could be sacrificing my only night off for a whim he had to go for a beer with his brother.
AIBU to feel that this is a bit unfair?
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to be upset that my night off has been cancelled because my DH thinks his brother needs too see him?
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RoboticSealpup · 17/07/2015 03:25
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