Am asking for a friend who has asked to post on my account and have thereby NC, here's what she has said
"I've been with my boyfriend for 20 months, and about 9 months ago he admitted to me that about a year before we had got together he had regularly slept with prostitutes (about 20 in total), and visited strip clubs (only with friends for drinks and only once had gotten a private dance which he'd hated). Now obviously this was before we got together, but I took it really hard as had imaged there was always a "type" of guy who did that sort of thing, and assumed that that type of guy would also cheat/lie etc. it also hurt me a lot just when considering him in comparison to my friends boyfriends, who seem very butter wouldn't melt and like they'd never do that.
We moved on past it and he swore there was nothing else to tell me, until last night where he revealed a "funny" story about a time he was getting a private dance and a stripper "excited" him, and it came out that he has actually had them many times and actually quite enjoyed them back in the day. I went mental, screaming calling him scum, which was unfair of me but I was so hurt as I thought i had been told all of it last time.
Now it comes to the morning and we don't know who is being unreasonable, he thinks I should mind my own business as it was before we were together and is furious at me for the things I said when I was mad, whereas I am upset because I thought I knew the whole truth and I'm so mad at him for bringing it up again, and because I think things like this are a very big deal and now I don't know wether I can trust him.
Who is being unreasonable?"
Also just to say as it's mumsnet I am expecting to be called a troll, this is not a troll message just a very weird situation
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Who is being unreasonable ? Re sex workers
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help14993 · 10/06/2015 15:44
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