My sister and her very long term DP have split up, well they split up months ago but she decided to hand her notice in at work and move to the other side of the country to live with a friend and start afresh. Her DP will keep on their house.
Anyway, basically our mum bought Dsis a coach on credit when she moved in with her DP, it was very expensive and DM is still paying it off.
DM text me and told me that DSis didn't want to take the coach with her, so did I want it?
My coach is very old, worn out and with 4 cats and a child with autism and disabilties, a bit scratched and stained, so I would love it.
However, I said no because I did not want to leave my sisters DP, who I've known for years and hasn't done anything wrong, without a coach.
DM said she had offered for him to take over the payments and he refused and she wasn't paying for a coach that neither of us had.
So my sister said what if we had a swap and gave him my old coach and swapped it round? I said yes if that's what her DP wanted and he agreed.
BUT....
I just feel horrible taking his spotless, new coach, which has never had a child or animal on it, and handing him my rubbish, old, cat bed in return.
I can't even wash or Hoover it as I've had a miscarriage/ ectopic miscarriage this week and I can't even move without feeling like someone is stabbing me right through my womb and slowly twisting the sword. 
I usually Hoover and use the carpet cleaner on it weekly.
Is this horrible?
AIBU?
Is this unreasonable? I feel weird about it.
Hurr1cane · 29/01/2015 17:40
It would seem that your DM will stop making the payments if you don't, so I say go ahead. But I would check he wants your old one and know what condition it will be in - he may prefer to get a new one from somewhere.
Don't feel bad. He is a grown man and can sort out where to park himself of an evening.
You, on the other hand, need to take lots of care of yourself - I hope the future brings much better things for you 
First of all 
for you. I hope you feel better soon.
Do you mean a couch?
If the ex doesn't want to pay for the new one and you want it and he agrees then just swap them over.
I wrote coach then couch then didn't think anything looked right so just chose one. Feel stupid now. Co Codamol isn't my friend
Couch?
Just take the damn sofa if it's your mum who's paid for it. What some bloke who once went out with your sister chooses to have in his house to sit on isn't really your concern.
Sorry about the m/c as well dude.
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Ah, it's quite funny really OP, I make typos like that all the time but the image of an worn out old coach being swapped for a lovely new one did make me 
Anyway, take the couch and let him decide if he wants yours or if he would prefer to get his own. Hope you feel better soon x
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Am very sorry for your loss
Please take the nice couch. You're being very lovely to give him your old one at all, whatever state it's in.
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