I am so pissed off! Once again darling 'Mother' has managed to screw us over once again!
She met this 'man' married cheating scumbag before last christmas, didn't tell anyone just went out last minute, always on the phone etc fair play she's been single a fair why after cheating on my father and leaving. Last Christmas she was foul! this 'man' was on holiday and she couldn't speak to him so everyone had to feel the brunt of it, she was angry, rude, shouty and glued to her phone waiting for him to text.
Things only got worse, we use to go to a pole class together she'd promise me she's be there minutes before I'd leave (wouldn't go if she wasn't there) I'd get there and she would of called some other people at the gym and tell them she wasn't going as this 'man' had called and wanted to see her. She'd then make up a lie to tell me why she hadn't been.
She'd promise she'd come see me and DS and then wouldn't call or show up and when you finally get a hold of her she'd say "we'll ..... called so i saw him instead!"
I put up with this for 2 more months, constant broken promises of seeing DS and then no showing until the day before my sisters wedding she had once again promised to see me and DS went to see him instead no message all day we had plans and she couldn't care told me not to bother her or speak to her.
It was DS's wedding she needed to get an outfit and we were sorting out my bridesmaid dress. She went into every shop that you couldn't get a buggy in, DS was asleep and she was in one for over an hour leaving me and DS outside in the cold and rain (january 13, by the sea) then yelled at me telling me to get the fuck over it and told DS to 'man up' wasn't even two. On the way home she nearly drove into another car because she was texting him and driving then told me to 'shut the fuck up' when i called her up on it as DS was in the car
I went to DSis wedding where he showed up, uninvited, proceeded to give my DS lolly's, chocolate etc without asking and as it was 11 and he wasn't allowed them I wasn't impressed. Even had the cheek to tell me how to hold DS, how to feed him (he was nearly 2) and how to play with him all the while HIS WIFE AND CHILD WAS AT HOME TOTALLY UN-AWARE HE'S CHEATING! He's going around telling everyone how horrid I am, I won't give him a chance etc to all of these people that he's never met before at my sisters wedding. They even had to find him a seat, dinner, etc because he wasn't invited.
Safe to say I left early after my mother left all her friends at the reception to go have sex with him and when she came down everyone had left.
The next day once again a no show! I gave her another chance the following week, half an hour late, next time didn't show up, next time didn't show up.
I had an ectopic in march and was kept in for a week nearly needing surgery, the hospital called her as she was my next of kin. She turned up on the phone to him was on the phone for two hours whilst the put me on a drip and scanned me. Only when they said i'd need some overnight stuff she got off the phone to say "for fuck sake, well fucking done I'm suppose to be seeing .... tonight and now I've got to run around after you and stupid DS, I'm busy and I have a life". The nurse was shocked and apologised for calling her when she left, thankfully DS stayed with my sister I was there over my birthday, she didn't even text/call or come and see me as she was seeing him not even a card.
She was going away booked it right over DS birthday and his party that promised to see him before she went. Ditched us again, promised to call him before she got on the plane. She didn't called her 'boyfriend' if you can call him that instead so promised to call whilst out there, got her phone blocked due to texting and calling him so much so didn't contact me or DS at all.
The last straw was in April she got back and promised to ring me when she landed as she now hadn't seen ds in about a month, didn't happen. Turned out she left her friend at the airport to make her own way home to go see this man. When she did call about 8 hours later Promised to come see DS before he went to bed at 7pm. 9pm she rocks up she'd been with him all day in bed as he was "poorly and missed her".
She then told me that she would contact SS and get DS placed with her and I'd never see him again, she'd get her friends at the hospital to make up fake mental health records about me to get me sectioned for the rest of my life and proclaimed that she and this man had already seen my file and saw that SS was involved (they weren't)
I cut contact after this, called the police and made sure it was on record as she went round telling everyone she was taking me to court.
My sister begged me to see her and let her see DS as she was telling her how unfair it was and how she missed DS. In November I gave her her final chance, she was aware of this. She saw DS once and arranged for dinner the next time, she said she'd forgotten and had invited a friend round but invited me round with DS. She and her friend stood there and she watched her friend tell me "you're a horrible person, you'll end up sad and alone and that's why nobody wants or loves you" she didn't utter a word.
She hadn't seen DS in 3 weeks since christmas occasional facetime's in the week. However every Monday she'd see DS before nursery (it's the house right across the road from her) last night she called and once again arranged to see DS, promised him she'd be there and was looking forward to it. I got there this morning and he pulls up (wife thinks the affair is over, moved house with their daughter and thinks he's at work) She opens the door, ignore's DS saying hello and lets him in and shuts it.
She then texts me saying "I understand you're angry with me" I've replied saying "Don't ever talk to me again, you had one chance and one chance only and you blew it more than once. He must be worth it"
She's read them and tried to reply. No doubt she'll try to contact me tonight when I get DS but I'm done. Completely done she only got one more chance for my sister. I'm 18+1 with DS2 and she won't be involved.
The fact she can throw away her relationship with me and DS for a man who's married with a child and cheating on his wife angers me.
No doubt she'll read this but If she does, i mean it. I'm done DS deserves a hell of a lot better than you and so do I
Sorry it's long this is just a summary of the past year there is plenty more sadly. I just needed to get it out
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WrappedInABlankie · 19/01/2015 12:41
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