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Blackout234 · 08/01/2015 14:29

not sure where to post this but I love aibu because I do get lovely advice from those on here.
some background- DP is a mechanic, Has been for just shy of a decade, over the last 6 years he has sustained multiple injuries (only one of them work related which was sorted) he now has pins in his back, 2 slipped discs, a pin in his knee and 2 pins in his shoulder. His back looks like a game of noughts and crosses. Nearly everyday now he's waking up crying in agony with his joints too stiff and painful to move. He went to the local GP and they gave him painkillers and referred him for an Xray, he went to hospital later that week for the x ray and didn't hear back (The xray was about 4 months ago) we've called 7 times and each times been told either they dont know whats happened or x y and z needs to be completed by z y and x before they have the results through, or the results mustve been sent to the wrong department which is annoying to say the least. Its effecting MY work. I'm self employed, so if I cant get the hours in I can't get money out, its basic logic. and more than 20 times in the last 7 weeks i've had to cancel work or avoid going to Last minute appointments because my partner has been too unwell to do anything for himself. Its making him depressed too as he is one of those "Get things done at all costs" sort of people. I'm having to help him walk to the toilet, undo his pants and then help him up, pull up his pants and then take him back to bed or the sofa. He cant even manage a microwave meal somedays so I have to spend time to make his food, We used to be able to get the bus to do our weekly shop, now we can't so thats an extra £10 out of our measly basic earnings of £200 (His earnings alone, mine are unpredictable some months and weeks i earn nothing), still through all of this he's managing to force himself to work at least 3 days a week (He should be working 5) but then he gets docked and we're lucky to see £110 in the bank at the end of the week. then at the end of each day he is practically paralyzed. 90% Of the time when he gets home it takes him 5 minutes to walk the 6ft between the car and the front door unless I get out to help him (dont always hear/see him) and even then i have to get him to the sofa and then the fun starts, Hourly toilet trips even tho he can manage actually "Going" if you know what you mean, making him food and helping him drink from a straw as he can't tilt his neck back to drink from a bottle sometimes, then night times fun. I have to spend at least 20 minutes switching various pillow positions to make sure he's at least moderately comfortable and sometimes I wake up to him elbowing me because he has to go to the toilet and doesn't want to topple down the stairs as he's still in pain (He has fallen on me on the stairs more than I care to admit). This doesn't stop when he has prolonged time off work. he had a month off work early 2014 due to one of the ramps in the garage failing and causing damage which needed to be repaired and nothing much changed. He was okayish sometimes but was still in pain and I was still making him food, helping him drink some days and on occasion helping him to the toilet. He is only qualified in mechanics. He has no other qualifications (Not even a GCSE to his name) His injuries are caused by boxing, 2 motorbike accidents, a work related accident and various other minorish things that have just added insult to injury. I dont believe his job is the cause of his injuries and pains however i believe it aggravates it alot. Would it be unreasonable for him to leave work and claim DLA (Or, PIP as its now called) or ESA (Not sure which he would need to claim i dont know much about it).

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JeanSeberg · 08/01/2015 14:33

Have I read correctly that his injuries are due to negligence on behalf of his employer? Is he pursuing a legal claim which would at least give you some money to pay for his additional needs?