Hi all....I know IABU but I just need to ask!
Two months ago I gave birth to my wonderful DS so probably PFB but while DH's parents are doting, excited new grandparents they've done so much to annoy me in the past two months it's unbelievable! Firstly I don't trust them at all to babysit, obviously this annoys DH to no end because I simply don't let it happen, it's gotten to the point where I simply can't watch them around DS, I don't want them around him!! The big reasons I don't trust them are as followed:
1# MIL has apparently been accused of hitting a child in a past job. She told me this because of a family feud where another relative accused her of being a child abuser!
2# Their home is filthy. Dust and dirt everywhere, rotten food and boxes of junk and mold growing everywhere. FIL has admitted they're hoarders but doesn't do anything about it.
3# MIL is overly needy and clingy so of course she's the same with my DS! If she's holding him and I go over to even say hello or kiss DS I get told to "go away this is granny time." No she's not joking she's also done this to my DH and only lets PIL near her and DS. She calls him "my son" or "my wee son" and points to FIL and says "There's daddy!". She constantly asks about babysitting and him staying over night while I've always refused she keeps going and saying stupid hints to DS about staying over like "Yes my wee son, it'll be just me and you some night let me tell you." Yes yes a baby understands that of course
Yes, some of this is petty but it does grind on my nerves because it feels as if she's over stepping boundaries and trying to take my place as a mother.... On the other hand I don't believe in hitting children as a punishment and she has stated on numerous times "he's my grandson and if his parents aren't there I'll discipline him." And she hasn't explained the accusation of her hitting a child or how it was resolved just that she was accused.
DH obviously does believe the accusation about his mother because "She's not strong enough." So of course she's not capable of such a thing!
Please give your opinions ladies I'm going to go mad if all of this goes on!
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mamabear220 · 01/01/2015 20:48
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