I have 2 DS, DS1 3years and DS2 4 months. I am diagnosed with bipolar disorder, currently off medication due to complicated reasons I won't go into (unless I need to later).
I don't feel depressed, or manic. But I feel like I'm really struggling to be a mother. I can't cope with how tired I feel all the time. The boys go to bed at 7pm, we dream feed DS2 at 11, then sometimes he wakes in the night for feed, sometimes he goes through until 6.30am. Which I know I should count my blessings for, and it could (and has been) much worse. But the other week, before we came to MILs for Christmas, I was so tired I felt like I couldn't go on anymore. I've just had a full blood test done and everything was ok, except my white blood cells which were too high, even though I don't have a virus or anything.
I'm terrified of my boys, of spending time with them. I dread the days when it's my turn to get up with them, I just don't know how to occupy DS1, and DS2 just cries all the time. Everyone says it's the early days that are the hardest, and I read about how people struggle with their newborns, but I was seriously fine earlier on, it's only now I'm struggling. I feel like interacting with them is hard work. I think I love them, I try my hardest with DS1 especially, lots of cuddles and bedtime stories and telling him I love him, but all I can think about is running away.
I've been reading a thread on here where posters told the OP that that's just parenthood, get used to it. And I can't. I wasn't meant to be a mother, DS1 was an accident, and I was barely coping with him, so why the fuck did I agree to have another child. DH goes back to work on Friday and I'm dreading it. This is my last night at MILs and I could cry. She never bothers to visit us, we have to travel to her, and it's too far to do it every weekend.
I know I just need to get on with it, but I find myself obsessed with stories of mums who couldn't cope, and (this is awful I know, I'm disgusted with myself) almost admiring mums like Charlotte Bevan, who managed to escape it all. The only thing that stops me from walking out is thinking how angry DH would be with me, he wouldn't have sympathy, and how he would struggle to work full time and pay childcare costs.
But I'm just a shit mum compared to my other friends. I don't sew, or make clothes, I try to bake once a week with DS, I get overwhelmed with cooking and often dinner is just freezer food. I love DS1, I just feel like DS2 was a massive mistake.
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Can't tell if IABU or should get over myself
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TwosaCrowd · 28/12/2014 21:37
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