Iabu?
My brother in law has confided in my husband that his girlfriend is pregnant. BIL at wits end as this is unplanned (at least from his point of view) and they have have had a difficult inheritable condition confirmed in older son and a 50% chance of the same happening again.
We have been through something similar, want another child but are very carefully weighing up options and having tests due to the potential problem and impact on close and wider family who help with child care because we feel it's not just a case of what we desire.
I think BIL is blind to her and foolish. She has been selfish, devious and irresponsible. She got pregnant "accidentally" with first when their relationship was rocky (BIL was constantly on dating sites and was on the verge of leaving her even while pregnant), said she would have another child before she turned a certain age ignoring BIL's wishes (regarding the medical condition/advice) and dumps first child on family and did so practically from birth.
Bit of backstory, that is nothing to do with me- except that we get constant texts and phone calls asking for help and advice when shit hits the fan for example BIL already questioning accidental nature of both. I feel he is equally irresponsible in this. Takes two etc.
What is to do with me is that we are meant to go to a small family special occasion they will host where it will be announced. Most family members already know but are not supposed to say. I find it hard when strangers announce new babies and that's my issue. But I don't feel I should be held hostage and have it forced down my throat when they know it's a sensitive issue for us. So iabu to ask DH to ask they consider our feelings?
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Aibu re baby announcement at Christmas/sensitive subject
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Monkeysee100 · 18/12/2014 07:19
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