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AIBU?

He made my life at work miserable....

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QweenCnut · 04/12/2014 18:37

and had a similar effect on most of my colleagues. But he's leaving next week

Whenever there was discord, he was at the centre of it. He has upset so many people and is easily the most difficult person I have ever had to work with (I've been working for 30 years).

He literally has no qualms about what he says to people, doesn't care if his actions or comments are inappropriate. He bulldozes everyone who gets in his way. He thinks he's superior (he's not) and will talk incessantly at meetings, not realising that even our spineless management are not interested. To quote our MD "I'm going to end up punching him in the fucking mouth".

On several occasions, he has almost come to blows with my male colleagues. He has shouted in my face, to the point where I had to move away as I thought he was going to hit me.

Probably the worst thing he ever said to me was that he has a "hit list" of people he is going to kill or maim, and how. He led me to believe that I was on his list, as it includes other women he has worked with. I haven't told anyone at work, but did inform the police who took a statement.

WIBU to tell him exactly what I think of him on his last day? It would make me feel better, and less of a victim.

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EatShitDezza · 04/12/2014 18:39

Could you make a banner and write:

'Good ducking riddance you Bellend' then draw a smiling penis?

AlpacaMyBags · 04/12/2014 18:39

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NorwaySpruce · 04/12/2014 18:41

No, I wouldn't, tempting though it might be.

He might just be odd enough to act on his 'hit list' once he has time on his hands

I'd grin inanely, and wave him on his way, then throw a happy little party at my desk.

Hatespiders · 04/12/2014 18:46

Ooooh no! He sounds quite dangerous. Lie low and rejoice quietly!

Agree with Alpaca; you should have been protected at work from this weirdo.

HumblePieMonster · 04/12/2014 18:47

Just say 'Bye' and forget him. The lack of interest will unnerve him.

Hassled · 04/12/2014 18:49

Don't even say "Bye". Say nothing at all.

QweenCnut · 04/12/2014 18:53

So saying nothing would be more effective? Perhaps better to let him think that I don't care

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KillmeNow · 04/12/2014 18:53

I hope there wont be a leaving do for him . Or a leaving card/present.

Be ostentatiously not bothered that he is going. No goodbyes or smiles for him.

Do a collection anyway though and spend the proceeds on a buffet lunch for the office. Once hes gone ,salute his leaving with fizzy pop

Fiftyplusmum · 04/12/2014 18:57

Saying nothing would be best. Don't do anything memorable that he can stew about just in case his hit list is real. He has problems with most people from the sound of it.

DoJo · 04/12/2014 18:58

Well, either he's a sociopath with absolutely no shits to give about how anyone feels about him, or he is that kind of dick that gets satisfaction from needling other people and getting into their heads. Either way, acknowledging that he has wound you up won't have the desired effect, so just being detached and disinterested is the only way to go.

SquiggleMcSquiggle · 04/12/2014 18:59

Sounds like ExFIL, I always felt very sorry for anyone who had to work with him. Does his first name begin with P?

Andrewofgg · 04/12/2014 19:00

I once went to a Farewell party on a Friday and a Thank Fuck She's Gone party on the Monday. Guess which we enjoyed more!

QweenCnut · 04/12/2014 19:45

I can guarantee there will be no card or collection, let alone a leaving party! I think I'm just looking to prove to him that, despite everything, he's the one leaving.

I don't know the difference between a narcissist or a socio/psychopath, but his behaviour suggests many of these tendancies.

If ignoring the fact that he is leaving (think he jumped before he was pushed) will piss him off more, then that's what I'll do.

might decorate my notice board with some cunting bunting

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Andrewofgg · 04/12/2014 19:56

OP What about the bash after he's gone?

More seriously, if he comes round on the last day to say goodbye and shake your hands what are you going to do?

Clutterbugsmum · 04/12/2014 20:01

He may not have a leaving party but there is no reason why the rest of you can not have party to celebrate the fact that he has left.

MummyBeerest · 04/12/2014 20:09

Say nothing. People like that hate feeling like they don't matter.

I'd be shocked if anyone would throwa party with him in attendance.

StripedOss · 04/12/2014 20:53

how the hell has he not been sacked for gross misconduct if he's been treating people like that?

ImperialBlether · 04/12/2014 21:39

Can you just play "Perfect Day" all day?

Just trying to think of other songs...

maddening · 04/12/2014 21:48

If everyone had poppers and tooters and as he is escorted out the door - before it shuts and with a window open all give a loud resounding cheer and pop and toot away.

Snatchoo · 04/12/2014 21:51

Haven't you posted about him before? I remember someone posting about a colleague with a hit list.

Anyway, YANBU to want to give him the send off he deserves but I think you shouldn't. Unless of course everyone does maddenings suggestion!

Jelliebabe2 · 04/12/2014 21:53

Songs for the big day

Oh happy day
I hate Everything about you
Scummy man
Joyful joyful
....

rednsparkley · 04/12/2014 21:54

ImperialBlether how about Pharrell and 'Happy' or Walking on Sunshine or Perfect day

Topseyt · 04/12/2014 22:12

Sounds as though your work will be a much happier place when rid of him. What an arse.

Save the party and the booze for after he has walked out of the door for the very last time. Once he has well and truly disappeared then crack open the champagne.

I hope that the "hit list" is all hot air from him. You have told the police anyway. What did they think? Wondering what sort of a background he may have etc.

purplemeggie · 04/12/2014 22:38

Hooray that he's leaving...hoping you and your colleagues have a happier working life from now on.

kittykathat · 05/12/2014 01:49

Urgh what a loser! Good riddens to him.
I wouldnt chew him out but maybe just say something rude like nobody will miss him or something

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