I am having surgery on the 19th of Dec, it is to remove my large bowel due to years of active Crohn's, it's basically my only solution now to get better after a rough few years, average stay in hospital after surgery is 7-10 days, so basically it is looking very likely I'm going to be in on Christmas day, very upsetting and very unfortunate but I'm trying to look at the bigger picture because I need this surgery, quality of my life and my families life will a lot better, just unfortunate it's came about at this time of year.
I have a 5 year old DS, so as you can imagine it's a bit of a sad thought that I'm not going to be there on Christmas morning to see him open his presents. I have suggested to DP that we could maybe have Christmas day a few days later, once I'm out of hospital. He doesn't think this is a good idea. He says that he would feel sad for DS and feel like DS is missing out, plus he is a bit concerned about DS waking up on Christmas morning to no presents, my argument is that DS only knows it's Christmas morning because we tell him it is, it could still be 'Christmas morning' two, three days later.
DP and DS will be going to my mums on Christmas day, I've said he of course should still open all the presents from them as 'early' Christmas presents and my family have said they will not go ott mentioning Christmas at the meal, and to him it'll just be a pre Christmas family get together. I should also mention that he won't be getting extended families presents until a few days after Christmas anyway as my auntie has an annual party where we do gift swapping on the 27th, pretty much around the time I'd be hoping to be out for.
My DP is really not keen on the idea and I'm absolutely not going to force the issue, I was wrapping his presents yesterday and I was just hit with a deep sadness that I'm not going to see his face as he opens them. I genuinely don't know if I'm being a bit selfish and unreasonable, I really need an outsiders perspective on this and I am willing to accept it if IABU. I know that in the grand scheme of things there are mothers and children worse off than me, but it's making me a bit sad nonetheless. Thanks.
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ILoveFrogs · 27/11/2014 23:41
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