do you think im overreacting regarding housing association?

[Tammy1212]

i moved here july ever since upstairs neighbour has been mean.

• locking me out communal door
  
• saying i cannot use shared garden cos she was there first
  
• racial comments and knocking on my door to rant
  
• banging on the floor to upset me
  

my HA said they will talk to her n offer mediation but i dont want that
they think its "neighbourly" for her to knock on my door wtf! its harrassment if i dont like you
they keep saying we should sort it but i dont ever want to speak to her again im happy ignoring her
she has been horrible to me from day dot
she also steals my letters and listens to my conversations i have on the phone (facts n proven)
shes harassed me and invaded my privacy but they think i should just "get over it"
im such a private person so this annoyed me more then the racist stuff
and they said they need proof of the racism but how exactly does one prove that?

last tenant was black she had an issue with him blaming his mental health issues now me?

i had an issue with a neighbour before in my old flat for a bit, she was white and not once did i accuse her of racism so i have no history if pulling the "race card"

i asked them to move me which they refuse.
i actually wasnt meant to move here. they housed me in my danger area (domestic violence) so im not even meant to be in this borough anyway
management transfers you get ONE choice or you're booted off the list so i had non choice but to accept n i was desperate my car was getting damaged n stufg

[WankingInAWinterWonderland]

That sounds terrible my ex neighbour did the same with me regarding shared garden

[Tinks42]

Next time she knocks on your door to rant can't you call the police?

[26Point2Miles]

you need to show willing here and go to mediation. see what happens. its all a bit one sided,he said,she said. keep a diary of events

[Costacoffeeplease]

Are you still putting the tv on at 3am, as per your previous thread?

[26Point2Miles]

oh yes,thought all this sounded familiar!!

[Christina22xx]

i changed my name:
no i have turned my tv down from 15/100 to 10/100 yesterday i went bed at 10pm my tv is off now im listening to music n on this
STILL isnt enough because she is again walking around in boots right now as i write this even after the neighbourhood manager JUST spoke to her and told her about her boots
i told u lot the tv isnt the issue

[26Point2Miles]

i told u lot the tv isnt the issue

she might say differently....go to mediation

[DecaffCoffeeAndRollupsPlease]

Try mediation?

[Christina22xx]

so why walk around in boots stomping when my tv is OFF right now?
its an issue only because i made an issue out if her inconsideration n lack of common sense that most nornal people have about walkinh indoors with shoes with a down stairs neughbour.

[Christina22xx]

i can go but im not going to hate her any less or want to even aknowledge her. i will never be on speaking terms with her again after what shes done.
i just want to move but they wont move me :-( nobody will want my flat in the state for mutual exchange i dont even have flooring lol

[LidlMermaid]

The HA has a policy and procedure to follow to address such neighbour disputes. Mediation is a stage in that process. Engaging in it will get you further than digging your heels in and refusing.

[madsadbad]

Are you renting? If yes, get your tenancy agreement find all the clauses you believe your neighbour to be breaking, write to the HA list all the incidents and point out where there are breaches in the tenancy, ones that pop up in my head which may be covered in your tenancy would be preventing someone entitled use of facilities/communal areas, harassment, racial ask the HA to write to you to confirm how the will be dealing with this.
Record every further breach, if possible when she knocks on the door let her know you will be recording the conversation. Every incident that occurs inform your HA in writing.
Report racial comments to police, inform HA you have done this.

[owlbegoing]

Why have you started another thread about this?
Do you expect to get different replies by leaving out the fact that you've got your tv on at 3 in the morning?

[26Point2Miles]

you seem to be focusing on 'getting moved'....they wont move you!

[TripTrapTripTrapOverTheBridge]

Can you be specific about what she has said, exactly, and done? Because there is always the chance that you are blowing it all out of proportion and your last post here, combined with the 3am tv, suggests that may be the case.

And how on earth could she possibly be listening in to your phone conversations?

[Vitalstatistix]

If the neighbour is making racist comments to you then the HA has a legal obligation to take that seriously. Point that out to them. It isn't 'playing the race card' if someone is making racist comments! You have the right to expect someone to not be racist and for the HA to act in accordance with legislation if they are.

Ask to see their complaints procedure and their equality and diversity policy and ask them how they are going to ensure that they follow the law on this, given you are being subjected to racism. A company's policies and procedures are not more relevant than the law, which must always take precedence.

Ask them how they expect you to prove it, how do they suggest you get proof, what proof is acceptable and how does demanding such proof before taking any action comply with legislation.

Report the neighbour's racist comments to the police. It is a crime. Tell the HA that since they have failed to take action, you have escalated it and requested police involvement.

Agree also with pp to check your tenancy agreement. Pull out anything your neighbour is doing that is a breach of that and write several examples of times when they have done so.

Keep a log of everything the neighbour does.

[owlbegoing]

I'm not being nasty just asking what you are attempting to achieve by posting about the same situation again?
Why not continue with your other post?
In this OP you left out the tv watching at 3am which is a contributing factor.

[Costacoffeeplease]

Sorry op, but you don't get to say who posts on this thread and who doesn't. You have started two threads now about the same thing, but with different information in each, and then reacted angrily to posts pointing out your possible contribution to the problem with your neighbour.

From your replies on this thread, and the previous one, I'm very glad you're not my neighbour and I'm afraid your attitude, and failure to include all the information that was on the previous thread in this op, makes me think that you are not exactly blameless

[26Point2Miles]

that's what I wondered.....2 sides to every story. it feels like op has exaggerated a lot of it in order to get the HA to move her!

[hotfuzzra]

You come across as a total nause imo.
Re: your title - Yes.

[WankingInAWinterWonderland]

I guess there are 3 sides to every story, the OPs her neighbour and the truth.

[TheLovelyBoots]

I read your other thread earlier this week.

I would accept the offer of mediation.

You sound combative. I suspect you might have compounded the conflict, unwittingly or not.

[Costacoffeeplease]

Yes you can post what you like - although it isn't really helping your case, but crack on. We can also post what we like, within guidelines, and we can all have our own opinions, most seem to agree, and I think that should give you food for thought