Now, I realise it's up to each individual to work out what's best for their family and circumstances, but.... I'm after some general perceptions of 'normal'!
I live abroad (Europe - couple of hours flight), I'm expecting my first baby next year and was assuming that close family (like my DM, and my DP's closest relatives) would come out to visit as soon as they can, once the baby's born.
However, noises have been made about it being more normal for some family to be staying for the birth - not in the delivery room (!) but staying with us at the time. My DM hasn't said as much directly (she wouldn't) but I'd hate for her to be upset if IABU in my assumptions about this. She is extremely sensitive about our relationship because I've chosen to live abroad, and this will be her first grandchild, which I really want her to enjoy!
It's partly for practical reasons - I don't know when PFB will arrive so it could mean having people staying with us for weeks, assuming they'll want to stay to get to know the baby once it arrives! We work from home and I already anticipate this being a stressful and tough time, potentially made harder if we have people (albeit much loved family) staying with us in the flat.
Just to add, family would stay with us - I wouldn't want to suggest they stay nearby.
So, I'd be so grateful for people's own experiences, and ideas of what is reasonable / unreasonable / normal!
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lucycoco · 26/11/2014 12:27
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