please don't be too harsh if i am bu..
we always spend Christmas with my dp's family which means his parents, his brother and his brother's girlfriend but they always celebrate it on the evening of the 24th.
So we see them all early evening and have our Christmas meal until quite late and go to bed even later.The next day, dp's brother&girlfriend leave just after breakfast as they are off to her family for Christmas day.
Dp and I then spend the day with his parents just hanging around really.
So the thing is up until now that's been ok, it's made me a bit sad in the past because these Christmases are nothing like what I knew growing up but hey ho nevermind.But now we have a toddler and things are different for a couple of reasons.
First of all pil's house is a real problem.It is filthy and full of junk . For that reason I was going to invite them all round this year, I know that pil would be happy with that and it's much easier for us.
The second thing is that I would like to invite them round for Christmas lunch as I always had with my family.Part of it is purely emotional and part of it is thinking how much more practical it would be with ds and futur dc.
I want to do stockings for a start and leave out reindeer food and say "right off to bed so father Christmas can come!".
The problem is with dp's brother & girlfriend, obviously inviting everyone round on the 25th means they would have to chose where to go.
So this is my aibu, do you think it's ok for me to invite them round on the 25th knowing that either they won't come or they will but will miss Christmas day with her family? I told dp about how i felt a few weeks ago and he understood.
I should also add that every year we feel that we don't get to see dp's brother a lot anyway as they are here just for the evening and leave early the next day and then usually stay for a couple of days with her family.And then me and dp just end up being on our own with his parents which is a bit boring frankly!
I feel that until now they've had it quite easy since we've always been there for Christmas (instead of alternating with my family) and also that when they have children of their own arrangements will probably have to change anyway.
So do you think aibu? I really can't tell, this is really important to me and I've been hesitating about posting for weeks so again please be gentle and tell me nicely if I'm beeing horribly selfish!
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Toizzy · 23/11/2014 07:55
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