I was, once upon a time, when I was mid teens and leaving school with great standard grades into a job my teacher put me forward for.
A few years later I was married and had four kids all pretty close together. In all honesty I struggled with life as a mum and wife. I did my best but I guess it was pretty half hearted. I always thought I had wasted myself. I grew up being the 'smart one' in the family and my parents always expected me to go far.
Anyways, fast forward 12 years, one divorce later and I am about to move in with my OH of a year and a half. I've also turned thirty and I've realised that all that desire to have a great career etc has just gone. I went to college as a lone parent and though it was only an NC I was very proud.
Now I work part time at the weekend as a bar tender. Raise my four kids and keep the house in the week. Cook nice meals and generally have become pretty domesticated which once upon a time I detested.
Now I just want to take care of my family. Cleaning the house isn't a chore anymore. I like keeping it clean for them all. I adore cooking and do all sorts, where once I detested it. I like making lunches for my partner and I'm happy with my job.
So what's the AIBU? Well I still meet with opinions that make me feel as though there is something wrong in actually being content to take care of my family and work as a bartender. That I should be wanting more for myself. So aibu to have accepted I'm probably not going to manage to get a high paid career and travel round the world and to find contentment and satisfaction in looking after my family and working part time be it in a bar?
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Celestria · 19/11/2014 01:04
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