...is actually quite controlling, in some cases?
Not obv all, but in my DM's case, I think she uses gifts to foist her values and ideals onto others.
She is a hippy. Very alternative taste. We are conventional. Yet she insists on buying things on a crystals/ incense/ ethnic handicraft / autobiography of someone tragic, theme.
I'm actually really cross as she took my 12yo dd to 'choose' her own present. She was taken to one shop and offered the choice of 4 Druidish looking pictures for her wall. Dd likes cath kidston so You can see the problem... Trouble is , my mum is so clever at projecting her values onto others that poor dd didn't feel that she could say her true feelings for fear of upsetting her gran.
I think it's about control and it makes me so mad. My siblings feel the same.
AIBU to charity shop the gift or return it to the shop? Anyone else with relatives who do this?
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