This is long as i don't want to drip feed. We live over 200 miles away from both sets of grandparents. We have two DS 2.5yrs and 5 months, so DH booked this week off work & we hired a car and decided to spend a week seeing the grandparents (both sets live about 30mibs away from each other).
My DM house is small so the plan was just for myself and DS2 to stay over at DM and DH and DS2 to go back to PIL for the evening. We were meant to be spending tues & wed with DM.
Arrive early tues and suggest going to local farm (my DS1 definitely needs to run around to burn off energy, staying inside would not be an option on such a beautiful day). DM said she didn't want to go but I suggested the we wanted to spend time with her so in the end she came & we had a nice time - although she never interacts with the children (but she isn't very mumsy). In the afternoon she refused to come to the local playground or the shop or for a walk around the park so she sat at home whilst we went out. DH and DS1 go off for the evening & she was able to walk to local bar to have a couple if glasses of wine!
Next day we had planned to meet up at local national trust property with amazing gardens & great for kids - take picnic etc. one hr before we were due to set off she announces she doesn't feel up to it and will drop me off but doesn't want to come.
I feel really upset that she doesn't seem to actually want to spend time with me & my family. She lives alone and I think she does find it tiring when she sees us but I get grief for not visiting her but when I do she just doesn't want to actually spend time with us or I feel like I have to force her.
In the end we went to spend the day with PILS instead and not staying over there tonight now.
AIBU to feel a bit let down, I'm struggling with two and it would be nice if DM could just help a little or at least show some sort of interest. I have one older sister who is the same and has absolutely no interest in my children so feeling a bit sorry for myself!
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To expect DM to want to spend time with me & my sons when we visit
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Albertatata · 12/03/2014 19:01
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