Just that really!
My best friend expects everyone to celebrate every one of her birthdays like it's her 21st. She lives a couple of hours away from me and every year I go to visit & spend an evening in a bar or especially hired room (this was for her 31st...) with a load of people I don't really know, not spending more than 5 mins talking to her. I've just seen on Facebook (I know...) that for this year she's planning a pub crawl around her local town, ok fair enough but there are 100 people on the invite list!! AIBU to be unavailable this year?? We're turning 35... It's not a biggy!
Incidentally, for the last 3 years she hasn't asked me what I'm doing for my birthday and last year I received a bunch of flowers, 10 missed calls & a load of panicky voicemails & text messages 10 days after my birthday when she realised she had completely forgotten. My birthday has become irrelevant to her although she made an effort to see me on my 30th when I did organise a party and for that she turned up late and left early! For my 31st I had a BBQ at home, she attended but spent all afternoon watching the football indoors while the rest of us enjoyed ourselves in sun (she has no interest in football usually but it was either the world or euro cup & she just could not miss the match... my other friends found her behaviour quite odd...)
I love a good get together & party as much as the next person but when I only see a friend a few times per year (because I make the effort to visit) I'd like to have the opportunity to talk to them which is impossible in a crowded pub or night club (god I sound old!)
So am I just a boring old mardy arse or is it really not necessary to celebrate every birthday like it's your 21st?
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To think you don't have to celebrate every birthday like it's your 21st?
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Quokka1 · 14/02/2014 10:05
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