I've been reading quite a few threads about how couples manage their budgets with interest. We're always had what I'd guess is one of the two mumsnet 'ideals' (the other being completely pooled finances). Essentially we have the same 'spends' left each month after bills and joint savings.
I've now been thinking that I'm actually not doing particularly well out of this arrangement as DP clearly has more cash left than me. Reason being, he works in an industry where casual clothing is the norm, has hardly any commuting costs and does his own hair.
I work in an industry where good quality suits are the norm, dry cleaning bills are a fact of life and hair cuts and make-up are expected. I also do more miles in the car, buy more petrol etc. I totted up my extra expenses and reckon I'm down by at least £100 a month, probably closer to £150.
To avoid drip feed, the catalyst for this was an essential personal expense that came up unexpectedly (potentially totalled car through no fault of my own). DP was adamant this was my responsibility in totality and I was as he has been able to source cars at knock down prices due to family (this isn't open to me at this point in time).
AIBU to think that if he's going to be so rigid about things being 'equitable' then I ought to budget every last bit of my additional expenses and agree that it either comes out of the joint account or that my 'allowance' is bigger to take my costs into account?
To be honest I can't believe I'm even asking this question, because I'm not exactly on the fucking breadline, but surely a bit of give and take is normal even if there is 'equity' in personal money?
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AIBU?
To think fair is not always equitable?
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BuggersMuddle · 05/02/2014 20:22
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