to feel a bit miffed they forgot my birthday?

[polythenespam]

My birthday was on Xmas Eve and I was working. Haven't been in the job long, about 3 months.

When I started I was asked if I wanted to join the birthday club - you give a couple of quid a couple of times a year, and there's a person responsible for getting a card and having everybody sign it. I gave them the date of mine and although they haven't asked me for any money yet, have signed a couple of cards for colleagues. My manager also asked me the week before if it was my birthday coming up soon.

So...went into work...and there was no card for me. Not one person wished me a happy birthday - clearly nobody knew. I worked my shift and didn't mention it, just had all the Xmas chit-chat.

AIBU to be feeling a little miffed about it? I know that none of my new colleagues would genuinely care about my birthday, but it would have been nice to have been wished a happy one. Being born on Xmas Eve is pretty rubbish as it is, more so when you've been rota-d to work.

[AmberLeaf]

YANBU.

The reason, which Im sure you are more than familiar with, is people are just so preoccupied with christmas, that everything else is forgotten.

Happy belated birthday

[formerbabe]

Tell them you want to resign from the birthday club because you don't get your moneys worth! But seriously, do you really care whether your colleagues you have known for 3 months remember?

[Misspixietrix]

YNBU. However with it being Christmas I would be lenient as people are having to do a million things at once and if you've only been there a short while they might not have all known and they might not have thought to check? Is there actually someone designated to check colleagues birthdays? Maybe they were off? Dds Great Grandfather doesn't even get her a card. I always presumed it was because they forgot. Until DM visited one day in her birthday month and saw her birthday written down on the calender.

[polythenespam]

Yeah, I know it's because it's Xmas. Just don't see the point of confirming my birthday twice if they don't do anything with that information...if I'd been born any other time of the year I'm sure I would have had a card.

[FrysChocolateCream]

I would offer to pay in your money. Then you would be a fully fledged member and can question your lack of celebration.

[CaptainTripps]

I'm taking a harder line. Leniency has no place here. OP joined the birthday club and got nothing when it was her birthday. It's not about the money but rather the principle. Someone has fucked up.

[atomicYuleLoghurt]

YANBU. it would make me mad too. I would expect the birthday club to make more of an effort with new staff anyway!

[agedknees]

Maybe whoever runs the birthday club starts new members from January? And they got you to sign others cards just for inclusion? Am thinking this because you have not put any money in yet.

[PigletJohn]

if you haven't started paying the subs yet you aren't really a member. No doubt you will be in next year's club.

If you wanted to be PA you could take a cake in.

[LittleprincessinGOLDrocks]

As you haven't paid in yet, maybe they thought you weren't a member yet? Or had changed your mind about joining?

For what it is worth, I signed up to our birthday club, paid in every month from the January it was started, come my birthday some 7 months later I got... nothing. Not even a card, despite every other member getting a card and gift without fail on the shift closest to their birthday. The club didn't last long, as after that I refused to pay in, as did a few people who said when you pay in £24 a year you expect more of a gift than a £4 bracelet and card (better than what I got though! ha!).
I also missed out on the gifts done by collection for people having babies, always paid in a decent amount, then when I had DS I got nothing! So on my return, I had been back 4 days, I was asked to pay in to a collection for a girl going on Mat leave. I said no, which was met with gasps. I then said, why should I pay in yet again when not one of you bothered to even send me a card?!
These schemes should work both ways, but they never seem to.

[quesadilla]

It is a bit unfair but I can't help wondering who would really give a tinkers cuss about some people you have only just met sending you birthday cards anyway. I would only expect birthday acknowledgement from close friends and family anyway.