Last night pil came for dinner, they don't live locally so hadn't seen them for a couple of months. During the meal, mil did the following:
1 asked why we called 2yo ds his name, why we abbreviated it and said she doesn't like it, it's old fashioned and we should use a different abbreviation. She's refused to use the abbreviated name we've called ds from birth so we were aware she doesn't like it but this was the first time she'd insisted we change it. I argued back but as she thinks she's always right and I'm charge she took no notice. She told us we must'nt use the abbreviated name at school etc (we love the abbreviated name, I told her we only used the full name on the birth certificate and to give dc options when older)
2 told us we should get married in the next four weeks, before we have dc2 and told us we should have a small wedding with family only, when I objected she took no notice
3 told us once we were married we should change dc surname from double barreled (mine and dps) to his only. When I said I'd keep mine, she said we should still change dcs to my dp surname by deed poll.
According to dp, fil told mil on the way home that she'd been rude but only in saying she doesn't like dc name, not the rest of it. Though I try to answer her back, she takes no notice and fil and my dp stay quiet! Dp has assured me he will step in next time...hmmm
Apparently mil is going to phone me today to apologise for being rude over the name, Aibu to tell her to not interfere again, our lives, our dc, our choices? Aibu to be angry or am I being over sensitive? She has form for this type of thing and I want it to stop.
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picniclady · 02/09/2013 09:26
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