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To wonder why people are obsessed with a new baby's weight?

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mylittlepuds Wed 17-Apr-13 16:04:25

Yes I understand it's important for a baby to gain weight as it's a great indicator of health, but why the weird judgement of non health professionals? "Ooh she's lost a bit I hear," said by aunts etc.

It's just irritating. Then you feel like you need to justify the stupid comment. "They do lose a bit in the first week," blah blah.

It's just weird! Why!

treas Wed 17-Apr-13 16:06:46

As it is one of the only factors people can determine whether the baby is thriving

Sirzy Wed 17-Apr-13 16:07:33

I think it's just a general talking point with a new baby babies sex/weight/sleeping/feeding are about it for topics of conversation about a new born!

mylittlepuds Wed 17-Apr-13 16:08:46

I wouldn't dream of putting a new mum on the spot and asking about the baby's weight. I'm sure she will have it in check herself...

gemdrop84 Wed 17-Apr-13 16:09:45

Have no idea, but I know what you mean. Ds is 11 wks old and everyone always asks 'so how much does he weigh now?' why does it matter?! he's healthy, happy and getting bigger by the day, I don't need to take him to be weighed every other week thanks!

mylittlepuds Wed 17-Apr-13 16:10:05

In my experience sometimes it then follows onto 'fantastic' advice...

IneedAsockamnesty Wed 17-Apr-13 16:11:31

I don't get it either nor do I get the obsession extended family members have with outcomes of HV and DR's appointments when they wouldn't openly discus their own medical stuff they expect the baby's parents to.

nananaps Wed 17-Apr-13 16:11:51

Just making conversation.

Weight and labour exprience seems to be main topic of conversation with newbabies.

Mette7 Wed 17-Apr-13 16:12:25

Aren't they just making conversation and trying to show interest/concern? Babies don't do much except lie around and grow, there's not much else to say about them...

OrangeLily Wed 17-Apr-13 16:12:34

Because you want to sound like you care. To be honest unless the baby is failing to thrive Im not going to give a flying fuck but its how you show concern and care. You can't really ask about the state of Mum's fanjo after the birth or how many tears she has. You can't ask how the baby is feeding because she'll be sensitive about breast or bottle feeding. There is literally bugger all you can ask.... " How's your baby? Still siting there son very little?" ..... "Grand..see you later".

treas Wed 17-Apr-13 16:12:44

Why so sensitive?

wimblehorse Wed 17-Apr-13 16:12:57

Why is it putting a new mum on the spot? As sirzy says it's just a talking point as they don't do much else...

Sirzy Wed 17-Apr-13 16:13:55

Some people seem rather sensitive.

I bet if people didn't ask about the baby people would complain about that too!

mylittlepuds Wed 17-Apr-13 16:17:18

Fair points. I'm being a meanie. I just find it really irritating. I did last time around and do this time.

mylittlepuds Wed 17-Apr-13 16:18:18

I feel put on the spot. Yes I'm an uber sensitive person.

purrpurr Wed 17-Apr-13 16:21:33

I never used to get it either. I still don't really. It always seemed to be a random fact to share with so many people, e.g. on FB birth announcements. I'm 37+3 and I think my birth announcement will go something like, 'DD born on X day at Xam, fully functional, all fingers and toes present, likes to open mouth and go 'aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaargh'. Please send wine.'

People don't actually ask you about your labour do they nananaps? Cripes.

Flisspaps Wed 17-Apr-13 16:21:43

DS was fucking enormous, it was the number 1 talking point about him. Didn't bother me in the slightest, there wasn't much else to ask about him!

BrianCoxandTheTempleofDOOM Wed 17-Apr-13 16:23:56

I have been pretty much housebound for 3 weeks (recovery from C+section then shitting wound infection)

I've had oodles of visitors but have very little to say to them other than newborn stuff (and Homes Under the Hammer) so I'm happy to discuss birth weight and gain (8oz in 2 weeks - chunky boy!)

s'just conversation innit!

princessx2 Wed 17-Apr-13 16:30:19

I swear my ex-best friend fell out with me over the weight of dd1. We had similar birth experiences (induced, in 'labour' for 36 hours, then emergency section) but my dd was 2lb heavier than her ds. She really didn't like being outdone by anyone!

mylittlepuds Wed 17-Apr-13 16:36:09

Princess that made me giggle!

TWinklyLittleStar Wed 17-Apr-13 16:39:55

What do you actually want people to say? I'm sure if they just talked about last week's Britains Got Talent or whatever, and didn't mention the baby, most new mums would be rather put out.

badguider Wed 17-Apr-13 16:42:24

newborns are pretty boring though aren't they? i mean, all they do is grow... not much else you can say is there?

if you don't want to discuss it, just say you don't know what the current weight is but baby is healthy and doing well.

mylittlepuds Wed 17-Apr-13 16:43:14

I feel really mean now!

valiumredhead Wed 17-Apr-13 16:43:56

It's standard baby talk not putting a new mum on the spot! Good grief!

mylittlepuds Wed 17-Apr-13 16:46:43

Sometimes it does come across as a bit nosey though...And I've just remembered why. I have been present at a couple of conversations where people have been a bit sneery about a baby's weight/loss.

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