Have NC because i think i may be overreacting a little
My DD (6) went to my friends DDs birthday well over a month ago. After the party friend called me to ask if it was ok for my DD to go shopping with them and could she spend some money. I am completely skint but said yes as I didnt want to for her to spend all day shopping with her friend and not be able to buy something.
I had gone to work by the time DD came home so didnt see what she had bought but called friend to say thank you for taking her and ask how much did I owe her. Im pretty sure and im only doubting myself now, that friend said that it was her treat and not to worry about it. This wasnt untypical of friend as before DD has come home from shopping trips with a little something as has her DD when her DD has been with shopping with us.
Fast forward to yesterday when friends DD called the house phone to say my DD hasnt paid her the £10 she owes and she needed it back straight away as she was going shopping.
I was a little taken aback as i speak to friend at length on the phone 3-4 times a week and nothing had been mentioned before but said i hadnt any cash in the house so could I speak to her mum. Friend was in the shower and her DD kept saying DD needs to give the money today.
Friend calls back a few minutes later and I told her if she wasnt going out straight away id drive to the cash machine and get the £10. Friend said it was ok and she'd lend her DD the £10, with her DD in the background crying "basketweavers DD needs to pay it back now"
This morning i withdrew the money and as soon as I had arrived home, another friend/neighbour (i'll call her friend 2) calls to say she is really sorry but I owe her £10?? It turns out friend 1's older DD owed friend 2s DD £15 for a dress and had brought round £5 and told friend 2 to get the £10 from me!
Now friend 2 is miffed off as she felt bad asking me for the money and feels like shes been put in the middle. As it goes, i've given friend 2 the £10 no problem but what if i didnt have it? Friend 2 would have been mad at me then (we are both strapped) and could have caused bad feeling between us and friend 1 had also potentially embarrssed me by highlighting that i owe them money.
I think also that due to the length of time elasped since this apparent loan friend 1 thought maybe she wasnt going to get it back so clawed it back by making friend 2 the one i owed.
I know its only £10, the amount isnt really relevant, it just seems to shitty way to go about things.
BTW none of this has been conducted by friend, just her 2 DDs passing messages on to adults.
AIBU to a little annoyed buy the whole senario?
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basketweaver2012 · 30/03/2013 18:12
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