My partner is taking me away next Tues-Wed. Originally 5 month ds was meant to come but now we have decided to go just us.
Dp wants ds to stay at his parents house. I disagree as I don't feel comfortable with the idea. PIL where great when I was expecting but changed quite a bit when ds was born.
A few examples when ds was 4 days old my Dp and his family all made me feel like I couldn't cope so should therefore leave my ds with his mum for a few hours while I 'slept', I cried the whole time then went down and took my ds.
Over the next week or so anytime my ds cried she grabbed him out of my arms saying I'll do this I know better.
More recently, whenever I go to take my ds from her she walks away or says I'm fine here just leave him. She also disagrees with every decision I do with regards to ds because she has 4 kids she knows better.
She is constantly buying us things we don't use, the wrong milk, clothes too small.
I am slowly getting the confidence to stand up for what I want but it is taking time.
I would prefer my ds stayed with my mum, she is happy to use a holiday from work to look after him. She knows how I want ds raised and follows everything I say exactly. For example I don't want to wean ds until 6 months, she has suggested early weaning but once I explained my plan she agrees. My dm would never force what she thinks. Maybe it's because I can talk more openly with my mum.
Okay back to the dilemma, I have explained to Dp that I would rather bring ds with us than leave him at his parents. He has come back with 'I understand what you mean, but I am asking you to'.
Am I unreasonable to reply saying what about my feelings? I truly don't think I'll enjoy myself as ill worry too much about ds. I would prefer ds to stay at my mums house.
Should I put my foot down? WWYD? AIBU?
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ThedementedPenguin · 15/02/2013 11:40
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