I had my dc at 30-ish. Lots of my friends and acquaintances have or are having dc at nearer 40.
It has really struck me that the latter group are 'allowed' to be more gushing about their births than the former group - more 'here is the love of my life' and 'I'm never leaving him/her again'.
One friend in particular was quite dismissive of my dc and any mention of them (and I am NOT a baby bore - quite the opposite). Now she is the one who makes sure all social arrangements and conversations revolve around her baby. It seems we were not allowed to 'use babies as an excuse' for not going out or changing our lives too much. With her it's the opposite.
Is it because people who had kids earlier were being sensitive to others who hadn't started families in case it was a difficult issue for them?
Has the world changed in 10 years and we are all more gushy?
Is it social media-related?
Do I just have one or two annoying friends?
Is that we are all at different life stage now at 40 ish?
I'm not knocking older mums (though obviously some posters will take it that way and say 'you sound charming' etc) - and I'm very very happy for my friends especially those who longed to have a family. I love their babies. It just bugs me that I feel I had to play down my dc.
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Proudnscary · 28/10/2012 08:41
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