To insist that DH takes the storage unit back?

[SlightlySuperiorPeasant]

This morning DH got up early and put up a storage unit in our living room as a 'surprise'. It is horrible. It's huge it doesn't match any of the other furniture, it sticks out into the room and it makes the room look smaller and darker. All not good but the thing that really, really irritates me about it is that this is the latest in a string of unsuitable things that he has brought into the house and put up without giving me a say.

He buys stuff like this because he thinks it will be nice, or "it's a really good deal". It then sits in its box for weeks/months while I point out that it's the wrong colour/we don't have space and then one day he decides to put it up while I'm out/asleep and presents it as a massive surprise and aren't I delighted? No I am not! Then he sulks. Then it ends up staying because he conveniently screws up the packaging so he can take it to the tip. Then he does it again.

Worst of all is when he has one of these bright ideas, does discuss it with me and we decide against it, then by some odd coincidence his mother decides to buy whatever it is as a present, so of course we have to put it up (again while I am out/asleep). Or when he buys as a 'present' for me. Argggggggghhh! The only item of furniture I have chosen in the whole house (I didn't even choose the house, he viewed it and put an offer in before even mentioning its existence) is the baby's cot.

Today I finally lost it and told him that either he takes the unit down and takes it back today or I will be paying someone to come and remove every but of junk that he's sneaked in.

/rant. Feel free to ignore, I feel much better now :)

[youarewinning]

I'm usually all for others doing the hard work but this would annoy even me.

Marraige is a partnership not a dictatorship.

Just be sure you don't say no to everything he suggests or he may just be buying it so you actually have some furniture!

[SlightlySuperiorPeasant]

We have furniture. We have enough furniture to open a shop. Ditto toys and hideous 'prints' for the wall. But somehow it's not quite right so everything has to be rearranged to fit in yet more stuff. I feel like circulating photos of him to IKEA and B&Q with a description of him as a serial shoplifter.

[Ithinkitsjustme]

I'd go with the second option anyway! It will be a "nice surprise" for him to come home and find lots of empty space that you can fill with things that you BOTH want

[SlightlySuperiorPeasant]

He hates the cot and apparently has nightmares about it Maybe I should just buy the house next door to do what I like with!

[oldraver]

Surely a cot cant be that hideous that it causes nightmares . He sounds a bit dramatic pleas link to cot

[SlightlySuperiorPeasant]

It's a Brio bedside cot. It is second hand. Our as-yet unborn daughter will chew on it and get a permanent disfiguring rash (apparently).

[freddiefrog]

YANBU

DH and I have wildly differing taste in interior decor (we'll be that couple having the stand up row in Ikea).

He likes to fill each room with as much furniture as is humanly possible. I quite like to be able to see the floor and be able to navigate my living room without breaking my neck. He also has an inordinate liking for the colour brown.

The last time I went out for the day with the kids, I came back to find he'd painted the living room in a horrific shade of shitstain brown and bought matching skidmark curtains and a couple of hideous storage units

I made him re-paint it and take the curtains and storage units back

[FurkinMerkin]

y'see this is why I am so pleased that dh takes no interest in what's in our house. He would have everything bland and beige and practical, whilst i .... buy exactly what I like and he goes 'if you like it... i like it'

[SoupDragon]

He has built it. He can't take it back.

[SoupDragon]

Oh, and leave the bastard.

[SlightlySuperiorPeasant]

He has built it. I care not whether it goes back to IKEA and he gets a full refund or it's dumped at the tip. His problem.

[SlightlySuperiorPeasant]

I wonder whether I should buy him a huge unit in a storage facility for Christmas. He could fill it with flat pack furniture and disappear on odd evenings to put it up.

[getrealandgetalife]

my dh does this too..

the other thing he does which drives me bananas is.... we discuss and i tell him my feelings.
then he leaves it for a while and says... i was thinking x what do you think?
and i say... I told you how i felt.
then he leaves it for a while and says... i was thinking x what do you think?
and i say... I told you how i felt.
then he leaves it for a while and says... i was thinking x what do you think?
and i say... I told you how i felt.
then he leaves it for a while and says... i was thinking x what do you think?
and i say... I told you how i felt.
then he leaves it for a while and says... i was thinking x what do you think?
and i say... I told you how i felt.
then he leaves it for a while and says... i was thinking x what do you think?
and i say... I told you how i felt and i'm not going to change my mind so stop bugging me.

he also wont be the 'bad guy' and makes out that its me putting my foot down when its really him.
eg... can friend stay while dd eats her tea?
him I dont really want her to
me I dont mind, if you want her to go you tell her

calls dd into the room.... turns to me and says ' what do you think should we let her stay?' expecting me to say...friend you have to go..... ggggrrrr.

Anyone seen a backbone lately?

[Salmotrutta]

Why do men like brown so much?

I have nothing against brown as such but it's a bit much when it's everywhere.

Before we got married my DH used to dress in various shades of brown. He doesn't do it now thank god.

[MissKeithLemon]

Sounds like a ruddy marvellous idea Peasant

Take him down to his unit and present it with a ta-daaa suprise!!

[AnEerieAirOfHorror]

The way i see it is if he ignores you and buys it or puts it up you can ignore him when you hire a skip and get rid of it all lol

[AnEerieAirOfHorror]

But you must do it when he is at work and when he gets home blind fold him and lead him into living room and shout "surprise i have redesigned the livingroom for you. Do you love it dahrling"

Its improtant to have one brown vise on a table or stand out the way so he knows its for him and that you were going for the minimalistic look and if he doesnt like it - cry and run to the bathroom and lock the door and dont come out or stop crying untill he said he loves it lol

[foslady]

YY about men and brown! Xh did our bedroom in brown and because the paper cost so much I kept it that way after he'd gone. One morning I woke up and realise that was why I was so bloody down in the morning! I repainted it green and cream and wake up feeling so much better, even dd asked for that scheme for her room!

[maddening]

Is he recreating his mum's house?

[SlightlySuperiorPeasant]

maddening not consciously but it is going that way.

The unit has not gone. Tick tock,

[MissVerinder]

Bonfire night is coming up ...

[youarewinning]

@ MissVerinder

[DontmindifIdo]

OK, you've told him it goes. So if it's still there on Monday morning, call YMCA or another charity near you to colleact some unwanted furniture, give them all the bits you don't like. Do'nt give him additional warning tihs is happening.

Let him come home and find it gone. Point out if he replaces them again, this will happen again. And again. And again.

[MadamFolly]

I would get rid of the whole lot, this would drive me truly bonkers.