Buying DD 'boys' pants?

[AvocadoAndFitch]

DD2 is nearly 3 and prefers playing with boys at nursery and doing 'boy' things.

She loves the colour blue, fireman Sam and postman pat.

She has many medical issues and is in her own world most of the time.

Took her clothes shopping today. We regularly buy her clothes from the boy range. DP is happy with this and it makes DD2 very happy, although she also wears 'girl' clothes.

She needed some more pants, the most suitable ones for her were red and blue toy story ones in a pack. so, I brought them.

DP isn't happy, he thinks a girl should not have 'boys' pants, no matter now much she likes them.

AIBU to buy them? DP has agreed to let her keep them as long as I promise not to let her wear them at nursery or to the hospital trips. But I'm not planning on restricting when she wears them.

[pethaubach]

YANBU.

I buy DDs all sorts of clothing. I don't see the problem.

[Lac365]

Don't see a problem with it TBA.
DD has Bob the Builder wellies.

[Noqontrol]

Not unreasonable. My dd often chooses boys clothes as well. It's up to her, it's not important.

[Sirzy]

He is being daft, as long as she is happy wearing them where is the harm?

[Flisspaps]

Pants is pants is pants.

Does your DH think the nursery are going to call Social Services if your DD turns up in 'boy' pants

[marriedinwhite]

If it encourages the potty training brilliant. Who cares. Our ds is 17 and wears trendy jersey interlock short type things that don't always have a fly. Would your dp object to that? Same principle.

[DublinMammy]

YANBU. Your DH is being U and very clothesist or sexist or something-ist. silly-ist

My DS (also 3) has his toenails painted red at the moment because he wanted to be like Mummy and we had a hoot doing it. Don't for God's sake tell your DH though or he may have a stroke.

[MarysBeard]

I had to get DD1 "boys" vests recently as there were no plain white girls' ones.

[MrsMuddyPuddles]

Can he explain the difference he sees/feels between boys pants and other boys clothing?

[Geranium3]

no you are NBU, it sounds like you and your dd2 have enough to contend with her medical issues so it's small fry if her boys pants make her happy! You sound a lovely caring mum and sure dp will understand that in the bigger picture,pants are not that important. Sounds like dd2 is a wise girl, boys pants always look more comfy than girls!!

[whenskiesaregrey]

Do you mean pants as in underpants? Or trousers?

YANBU. DS asked for 'the princess pull-ups' yesterday. So I bought them for him. He also asked for the cars ones (the blue ones), so he got a pack of each.

But, if they are boys underpants, do they fit properly? Don't they have the little pouch at the front?

[AvocadoAndFitch]

He seems to think people will think we can't afford appropriate pants for her and it makes her look 'unkept' I think he's being a loon.

I think these pants are the best she's had, thicker material, better waist band, fit etc. Plus she likes them and is happy.

[BlackOutTheSun]

as long as they are clean, whats the problem?

[sensesworkingovertime]

I don't understand why it should be even thought of as unreasonable. It's only pants!

My DD (10) is very boyish and has bluntly refused to wear girly clothes and is in jeans all the time. I have bought her pants and tops designed for boys.

It's not worth the hassle, you have to let them be individual, within reason, if all girls dressed as pink fairies how horrendous would that be?

[AvocadoAndFitch]

Thanks geranium

boys pants are his issue, she has boy trousers that he hasn't an issue with.

[Sidge]

My DD2 has SN and ishoos with clothes.

She will only wear boys boxer shorts (she's 8) and will not entertain wearing knickers at all.

I don't give a stuff, as long as she wears undies - she spent her first six months out of nappies going commando so anything was a bonus as far as I'm concerned!

[Geranium3]

with maddie mc cann being in the news today it does make me try to keep things in perspective, i bet her poor mum and dad wouldn't mind if she wore boys pants for the rest of her life.... if only they had her with them again

[AceOfBase]

There is no actual difference in the shape of pants at that age just the colour/character. My dcs both wear boy pants as its simpler to buy one set that do for both and the boys ones tend to fit better too. The elastic round the legs seem to be better

[AvocadoAndFitch]

She often discards her pants in favour of commando, including round other peoples houses .

With all her problems and medicines I really didn't think we would be at the pants stage for years. But in her own little way she has managed to potty train herself. I wouldn't of cared if she was using pants for hats at her age. But DP seems to have preference on type, colour, style and location of the pants.

[Geranium3]

in germany pants are almost entirely unisex for the 1st 5years and they don't get our pink for baby girls and blue for boys.

[lolajane2009]

i dont see the issue tbh... yanbu

[MissPricklePants]

yanbu! my dd is nearly 3 and she picks her own pants/clothes/shoes some of the time as she is the one that has to wear it! She needed some cheap shoes to keep at nursery to wear outdoors that can get wet/messy and she can take off easy so she picked some croc style things that look like dinosaurs (shes dino mad at the mo) and I have had a few negative comments! At the end of the day your dd has to feel happy in what she wears!

[fivegomadindorset]

DD 6 will only wear boys pants but the snug boxer type ones as they don't give her a wedgie.

[mrspnut]

My 5 year old has never worn girls pants, she will only wear boxer shorts.

We just go with what she wants within reason, she likes to wear a shirt, tie and waistcoat most of the time and as long as it's practical then she can.

[HybridTheory]

DD is always in jeans/trousers that are mostly her older brothers cast offs, as is her coat, wellies, some of her socks and the spare tops in her nursery bag. She likes pretty tops and pink socks but other than that loves her brothers old rugby tops! Just go with it:)