AIBU to send the Christmas card back??

[KeepInMindItsAlmostChristmas]

RANT ALERT

As some off you may know as I may have ranted about it before Ex SIL is a first class bitch, I mean she makes Satan look like the Easter bunny, she is a nasty minded, racist, bully who has no joy in life other then making others suffer and I will open the bubbly and dance on her fucking grave when she dies.....

As some of you may also know as I have ranted mentioned about it on here before the last straw was when she said DS1 should have been put down at birth, this was when we got the DX of his special needs that was when I kindly offered to beat seven shades of shit out of her if she came with in smacking distance of me...She is also a coward so has stayed away and as she lives in Devon I do not have to deal with her...BUT she has just sent DSs a Christmas card!!!!!! Love auntie slagface (not her name but what DH and I call her) it is now in two half and will be posted back to the bitch tomorrow!!! How fucking dare she think she has any right to be anything in my children's lives after what she said, as far as we are concerned she is dead (only with out the bubbly and dancing)I have spoken to DH1 and he is 100% with me on this....

How fucking dare she ...... So tempted to phone her and tell her to fuck herself!!!!!!

DS1 (age 15) was upset by it as sadly he knows what she said about him

Dons hard hat and awaits flaming!

[ColdTrukeyRemains]

Do you think it may have been a peace offering?

[deepandcrispandsevenfold]

rip it up, burn it and never think of her again
omg I am shocked (no idea that why) that idioticnastywankers people can say such things about kids with sn

[WorraLiberty]

How does your DS know what she said about him and how does he know you received a card from her?

[nkf]

You know - you really need to stop hiding your feelings.

[corlan]

And breathe!

I would honestly just ignore it. My sister has form this way too - never bothered to see my Dad when he was dying, never a word of comfort to my mother when our brother died and yet she wanted to be in contact with my DD1 (who she's never met!) on Facebook.

Let it go if you can - it sounds like it's hurting you much more than it's hurting her.

[AgentZigzag]

Arf at you having to say her name isn't actually Auntie Slagface

YANBU to want her to know how angry you are at her, but it would let on to her how much she's hurt you and by the sounds of it the last thing you want to give her is anything more to hurt you all with.

What she said was unforgivable but just for your own wellbeing you have to let her go, anyone who would say something like this is never going to be reasonable enough to feel guilt or remorse.

Just out of interest, how did your DS find out about what she said?

[DoesNotGiveAFig]

No flaming from me whatsoever. What she said was unforgivable.

[yellowraincoat]

What a horrible thing to say.

Chuck it in the bin, she's not worth the shoe leather you'd use walking to the postbox.

[HecateGoddessOfTwelfthNight]

I would feel exactly the same. I think it's impossible to move on and rebuild a relationship with someone who has told you that your child ought to be dead. I can't imagine any parent who wouldn't hate someone who wished their child dead. I don't know about you, but I can forgive someone for saying something horrible to me or about me, but never ever for an attack on my child.

[HarrietSchulenberg]

YANBU.

[Kayano]

My child will be born with an auntie slagbag because the dirty cows divorce hasn't come through yet we will still unfortunately be related to her

So yanbu

But... Still your DS seems to know a little too much

[sitandnatter]

DONT GIVE THE SATISFACTION!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

She'd get off on it. Bin it, don't give her any ammunition and keep your dignity.

[etJeviensEntretesReindeers]

Don't send it back. Just bin it and blank her. Keep your own dignity and don't let her have ANY contact from you.

Ignore her. And if you ever move, don't tell her where.

[KeepInMindItsAlmostChristmas]

No it is not a peace offering as she is always slagging my boys off on face book (we don't have her on FB but I get to hear about it from "well meaning" friends) last week it was slagging off DS1 for not having a job he is 15 doing his exams and then going to 6th form before hoping to go to uni... she was excited that her DD works in Asda!!!!!!

She said this about him 5 years ago and we have had nothing to do with her since except DS2 went with his dad to MILs 70th birthday a couple of years ago, DS1 would not go as he did not want to see her. That was not with out issue as her son who was 14 at the time punched my DS2 who was 8 and then cried to his mummy when DS2 hit him back! She was yelling DS2 was a bully, now I do not condone him hitting anyone but if a 14 year old thinks hitting someone 6 years younger is ok then he deserved to be smacked back.

She is the one losing out as both my boys are funny, smart and kind.

[etJeviensEntretesReindeers]

x posts.

[KeepInMindItsAlmostChristmas]

DS1 heard what she said he was in the room and she was screaming down the phone
Also the card was addressed to the kids so they opened it

[FatGoose]

(we don't have her on FB but I get to hear about it from "well meaning" friends)

i.e. stirrers trying to keep the argument going

[sitandnatter]

Great minds etJeviens

[MigratingChestnutsOnAnOpenFire]

just...bloody hell!!!

[TheMonster]

it's not worth the price of a stamp to send it back.
If she is intending to wind you up then she has succeeded.

[goingtoofast]

Bin the card. If you re post it you are giving her a reaction which will probably please her/give her something to bad mouth you about.

Often saying nothing can frustrate people for more than reacting.

[ratspeakeratsolstice]

Rant here all you want but please dont post the card back

1. she will use it to prove how unreasonable you are
   
2. It will be "poor me I wanted to make a peace offering at this time of year"
   
3. You will have shown her a new trick to upset you, she will now know this will get your dander up and will probably result in birthday Easter, New Year cards being sent to your DC
   
4. Ignore what you hear she has said on FB and dont feel you have to justify anything. What does she know about your family if you are not in touch?
   It will be getting back to her that she's riled you again which will make her feel smug
   
5. Remain dignified. Ignore

[kelly2000]

do not give her the satisfaction of knowing it upset you by posting it back to her. She obviously wants a reaction, which is why she is always slagging them off on facebook. What sort of an adult slags off a teenager on facebook anyway? Just ignore her, and if people keeping stirring just say "really" and change the subject.

[KeepInMindItsAlmostChristmas]

Thank you all, you are right I wont give her the satisfaction of knowing She upset DS1.

I think she is pissed off because everyone else got cards with a photo of the kids in (the yearly look how big they are getting photo).

MIL is on DS1s face book and she stirs a lot, worse since FIL died and MIL went to live near this bitch woman. DS1 put his mock results up and apart from one B they were all A*s so I think that prompted the work comment.

I feel a bit sad for her really as I have known he 26 years and she has never been happy always wanted what other had, broke up her DHs relationship as he was engaged when she met him and then she could not work out why he had 3 affairs leaving her for woman number 4.
She never has anything nice to say about anyone always what ever comes out of her mouth is spiteful and she is always falling out with who ever is around her, can't be a nice way to live really can it

But I can not and will not ever forgive her for what she said about our son and she is the one losing out on seeing what a fantastic young man he is now (well both of them are).

I shall ignore her, and carry on with my own life

[sitandnatter]

Well done Keep, the woman is to be pitied, that's the only emotion you should waste on here and only then for a nanosecond.

Head up girl, you'll never be her, be proud.