I want other people's perspective on this as I don't think I've got any! Long story but we got a place 3 days a week for 13mo DS at the nursery we wanted in August. I wasn't going back to work until the end of September but we took the place in order to secure it and thought that he could have a long settling in period. We started him with a couple of hours here and there and worked up to about 5 hours so he could try eating lunch and sleeping there. We then went abroad for 3 week so he had me and DH full time and sleeping in lots of difference places. After we came back we had one more week of settling in before starting back at work. I've now been back at work for 3 weeks so he has been doing full days for 3 weeks. We've had the usual crying when I dropped him off and picked him up and he didn't sleep there in the beginning but now sleeps for over an hour and eats really well. He's also stopped crying when drop him off and seems really well at home and full of beans. No excessive clingness or night waking, nothing that I was bracing myself for. Since he started they've said that he cries on and off throughout the day but again I wasn't too concerned about this as it's only properly been 3 weeks so thought this was usual settling in behaviour.
The problem is that on Friday they basically told me that they think he's taking an unusual amount of time to settle in, that they think the crying is too much and that nursery might not be the best thing for him. They'll give it another 2 weeks and review whether they want to kick him out!!! They also said that he doesn't take part in the activities on offer and that he's unsettling the other children. Bear in mind though that this all came out when I asked them how he was getting on rather than them approaching me to discuss an apparent problem. I was really upset at first thinking I had a child with abondonment issues or socialising issues. But the more I've thought about it over the weekend the angrier I've got. It's only been 3 weeks proper for goodness sake. Are they really telling me that all children settle in without any tears at all in this time??! Plus I don't think he's very unhappy there as I would know surely. I don't think they're being fair at all. 3 weeks for goodness sake - I really don't think that's long enough! Also - taking part in the activities - wtf! He's 15 mo! What do they expect - group role play? ALso he's a baby - he's going to cry on and off.
What do other people think about this? Am I Just being blind to the situation and desperately don't want to accept that we have a problem? Or are they being utterly unreasonable in thinking he should have settled in properly by now? I'm not sure that the nursery is suiting his needs if they expect him not to cry, to take part in activities etc at 15 mo? Do I want him to carry on going to a nursery that is prepared to give him a chance or worse still that is apparently unwilling to have upset babies on their hands?!
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willowsmyname · 16/10/2011 20:09
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