First post in AIBU so please be gentle.
DH, baby DS and I live abroad (Europe). We travel to the UK every year to spend Christmas one year with DH?s parents in the south and the next year with mine in the north. Whoever we don?t visit for Christmas, we visit for NYE so we see both sets of parents over the Christmas/NYE period.
My parents are divorced so our trip up north entails time spent at my mum?s house and separate time spent at my dads.
We have almost 2 weeks annual leave available for Christmas (this has to include 3 days of travel). I have proposed we spend 4.5 days at my mum?s, 2 days at my dad?s then travel down south and spend 5.5 days with DH?s parents.
DH says this is unfair as it means we spend longer up north. I have pointed out that out of all sets of grandparents, his parents will see DS for the longest as our time up north is split between two houses (my parents live an hour from each other and have no contact).
DH is insisting we cannot spend 5.5 days down south and 6.5 days up north as it isn?t fair (this is despite his parents seeing DS for the longest time out of all grandparents as their time is uninterrupted as luckily for them they are not divorced). Apparently it is not DH?s fault that my parents are divorced and I should accept that this means my parents spend less time with DS.
I am fed up with arguing as he cannot see that my solution is favourable to his parents and the best compromise I can do. AIBU? Maybe my judgement is clouded ? please enlighten me!
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Prometheus · 13/10/2011 09:59
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