Background is this: I have one child. I had a very long term partner when he was conceived but by the time he was born my partner had decided fatherhood wasn't for him after all and after lots of abuse towards me legged it across the country, never to be seen again. He pays maintenance but has never wanted any contact with our son, who is now 4.
I would love my DS to have a sibling and have an overwhelming desire to add to our family before I get too old (Am mid 30s and have a family history of early menopause). I have dated men since XP but put too much emphasis on the baby stuff and not enough on a relationship! I just can't help it, I'm so broody.
I really don't know about the ethics of deliberately having a child who will not have a father in the conventional sense. Obviously it's not what I'd planned for DS but it happened anyway - and I fear the abuse that XP is capable of may damage DS in the future more than not having a father at all. I would never trick a man into fathering a child and i am unlikely to find a new partner now so a sperm donor seems the best option for a sibling for DS. What do you think?
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Nakhon · 07/10/2011 17:28
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