I was on a training day at work and there were a few of us from different teams, mostly who I didn't know personally. A discussion arose about "the funny things children do" and someone talked about their toddler picking up swear words from hearing a parent swearing in the car. Someone else then said that when their DD (now 4yo) had sworn at an unspecified time in the past, she had washed her mouth out with soap - she was specific and said "I actually put soap in her mouth" so it wasn't just a turn of phrase.
I really didn't know what to say - I only met this person today, she's mid-thirties, seems nice, she works in the building but I've never even spoken to her before. I don't have kids myself so I really don't like to go around offering "parenting advice", but a former role I had in this organisation involved some child safeguarding work - making referrals to children's services and so on if we became aware of the people we worked (professional carers) with were alleged to have smacked children or might have been neglecting them, and so on. I have personally known of several cases where colleagues made referrals about allegations that carers washed children's mouths out with detergent - it would really be considered very, very poor behaviour management bordering on abuse, and something we were obliged to make a referral about. Mostly it seems to be done by people who just have a very 50's attitude to punishments and don't realise that sort of thing isn't acceptable anymore, who were doing it in a "loving parent making the punishment fit the perceived crime" kind of way rather than being deliberately sadistic, but it is a really horrible physical punishment to inflict on a small child and I wish more people thought it through before doing it.
I wouldn't think that a one-off mention of this sort of thing in the context of a parent and not a professional carer should have me running to phone social services, but I'm feeling a bit awkward about not having said something to the woman after the training session. Was I right to keep quiet or should I try to arrange to bump into her and quietly mention that she might want to read up on what sort of punishments are significantly less socially acceptable these days?
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To wonder if I should have said/done something in response to this punishment comment
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givemushypeasachance · 04/10/2011 22:46
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