DS1 age 3 has been mithering us to go to my mum's holiday home for ages. To be fair to my partner the last few times we have been it has rained constantly and has been crap. There is not much to do there but DS1 loves playing on the beach and spending time with us away from our computers and all the other distractions that we get at home. I always think it does him good when we go. My mum always offers to take him when she goes but partner refuses because he is overprotective and feels he should not go 3 days without seeing his parents. I think this is spiteful to DS!.
Anyway, partner and I both have weekend off so have arranged with my mum to go tomorrow. DS1 is really excited. Tonight, partner has sat me down, tried to be a bit manipulative and said he does not want to go. Basically he wants me and my mum to go with the two kids while he stays at home, says he will be bored and has jobs around the house he could do. DS1 is a real handful and I feel he just wants a nice, quiet weekend. I am pissed off because a) I don't know why he feels he won't enjoy quality time with his children especially when weather is meant to be glorious, b) I am going to be stressed out dealing with 3 year old and 1 year old alone and c) I think it is unfair that he will never let DS1 go with his nan which would mean both of us could get a break being as though he is willing not to see him for a weekend anyway.
I have told him i think he is selfish and miserable. To appease me, he has suggested that a) he stays with DS2 aged 13 montha while I go with DS1 ( I think this is mean to DS2) and b) none of us go and we spend the weekend playing in the garden (obviously DS1 will be upset because my mum has been telling him all week he is going to her holiday caravan). Am I ureasonable to make partner go where he does not want to go? Or is he being miserable and selfish?
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birdynumnums · 29/09/2011 22:37
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