I have posted here before under other names about DSS will try to keep this as brief and as unpersonal as possible.
OH has 3 DC's who live at opposite ends of the country. OH is in Navy away for long periods with no communication. I have my own DC's.
DSS is 15 (only child to his mum so brought up as an only child) came to stay in the school holidays for a few weeks (he asked to) and I posted about him having loads of money and really flashing the cash around my kids). His dad has been away for nearly 4 months with no contact. He had a really lovely time here and I went to a lot of effort to make him feel like part of the family even though his dad wasn't here, took days off work to go on days out etc etc. We had a few behaviour "issues" which I felt I dealt with firmly and without any conflict.
Also posted about DSS mum offering to pay for half his flight (I paid) and never recieving the money from her. Was a bit shocked when posters suggested that he may have kept the money (£100 roughly) which left me in a bit of a dodgy situation financially towards the end of the month (esp when I had to take the cat to vets in emergency).
Turns out DSS has stolen the money (this is a fact - do not want to go into how I know). His mum gave it to him to give me and he gave me £20 "from his mum towards his food and that" and he kept £80. I haven't told his mum yet - am going to tell OH when he gets home and let him deal with it - DSS doesn't know that I know.
I feel quite devastated TBH. His dad is due back soon and I feel so awful that I am going to have to tell him what DSS has done. I feel so dissapointed and hurt and worried about being okay with him and still treating him like a family member when I see him again. I am worried where his head is at to do this to me (and my DC's), but also feel so angry and let down and almost like I will never get back (what I thought was) a really great relationship.
I love him but right now I really don't like him and feel all over the place about how I want our relationship to progress and angry with him for doing this (how did he not think he would be found out?!) as his dad will be so dissapointed too.
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whereismysanity · 15/09/2011 22:52
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