sorry ladies, i know another wedding related post! mine is a little different so bear with me (although it was reassuring to read that many people are in a similar boat). anyway my partner and i are planning on getting married in edinburgh (where my partner and i went on our first holiday) in a few months, just at the registry office and then out for a meal afterwards. we have invited just parents, siblings, their partners and children, and our grandparents (plus our own daughter of course). well since then it has all kicked off, most of the family are happy for us but a couple of his aunts and cousins are mortified that they have not been invited and have said that they no longer consider us to be family! we've explained that if we invited them we would have to invite all our aunties, uncles, cousins plus partners and children etc which would take our guest list from 15 to over 40! we're paying for the wedding ourselves (except my dress which my mum is paying for, which is actually a bridesmaid dress) and can't afford to pay for that many people as i will be a preggers bride, plus it would mean that we would be paying to please others rather than ourselves. DP is gutted they have reacted this way as he was really looking forward to the day, plus he was adopted into the family so their comments have really hurt him. (this obviously makes us want to invite them even less). so are we being reasonable to just invite close family, or AWBU? plus any advice on how to handle these family members.
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mumofbumblebea · 13/09/2011 16:01
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