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AIBU?

To be concerned

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KaFayOLay · 03/09/2011 21:43

that my OH started a yomp up Scar Fell at 09:30 this morning and I have heard nothing since :(.

He didn't have a signal at the camp site, so text me as they were setting off up the hill.

So, if he had a signal previously, I am assuming he should still have had one later on when he came down and would text me to let me know he is safe.

We had a bit of a joke before he left about his funeral wishes, the first time in 10 years of marriage that we have discussed it .

He works away from home all week and rings every night either to speak to the children, or after they have gone to bed to check all is well.
What I'm trying to say, is he is usually pretty good at ringing and isn't the thoughtless variety of man.

I am pissed off as I know he won't ring now as he knows it is my bed time. I'm sure his whereabouts will be in the deep abyss of my mind, prodding my sub concious all night.

I'm going to be one tired, grumpy Mama tomorrow :(.

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MmmmmCake · 03/09/2011 21:44

battery dead
phone lost
no signal
no credit

dont worry, if he was lost/dead you would have heard by now

TheEarlOfDoncaster1963 · 03/09/2011 21:46

was he on his own? if not, then no news is good news, as if something had gone wrong then one of his friends would've rung you, no? what time did he say to expect him home?

FigsAndWine · 03/09/2011 21:47

If he was missing or confirmed dead, then they would have informed you.
YANBU to be worried, but I'm sure he's fine.

festi · 03/09/2011 21:50

you need to try to ring him, you have right? not knowing anything about the range or indeed trecking myself will they have done it in one day or would they be moving camp at all to be coming down tomorrow and so no signal now.

I hope all is well. not sure what to say, nothing is going to make you feel any better. Is there anyone else you could text or call to see if they have heard from Loved ones in the group.

bizzieb33 · 03/09/2011 21:50

xx could you text him & ask him to text you back to let you know he is safe?

KaFayOLay · 03/09/2011 21:51

He went alone.
He will not have ID on him, wallet will be in car at camp site.

Phone - contract/fully charged - possibility he could have lost it, and weather is pretty grim, so I guess signal could be affected.

He didn't give an expected home time but he did think the climb would take 8 - 9 hours, that'd take it to 19:30.

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KaFayOLay · 03/09/2011 21:52

Oh yes, I have tried to ring and it goes straight to voicemail, so I'm assuming no signal.

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MonkeyJungleConga · 03/09/2011 21:53

I'd call mountain rescue.

Does his phone have a remote locate option on it so you can see where it is online?

TheMagnificentBathykolpian · 03/09/2011 21:54

You said "They" in your OP. "...text me as they were setting off up the hill"

If he's on his own, who are 'they' and won't they be at least roughly where he is? Close enough to see if anything happens?

Not that it has, I'm sure he's fine and it's just taken longer than he expected.

Was this any sort of organised event?

festi · 03/09/2011 21:54

not sure what to say but next time make sure he carries ID and emergancy contact with him.

Beamur · 03/09/2011 21:56

My DH also likes to do this kind of thing. However, if he didn't return and contact me at the time he'd say then I think I would consider contacting the emergency services - especially if he was alone.
Maybe ring the local Police and see if they would go and check that he has returned to the campsite, or ring the campsite direct if they have anyone on site to see if he has returned.

festi · 03/09/2011 21:57

in fact I think I would raising the alarm by now. moutain rescue or police or campsite.

create · 03/09/2011 21:57

Gosh, I'd be worried too, but the Lakes are really impossible for mobile phone signals once you're down off the mountains.

As others have said, if he was in a group and something had gone wrong, you'd have heard by now.

Crosshair · 03/09/2011 21:58

Hope everythings ok.

Maryz · 03/09/2011 21:59

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LeBOF · 03/09/2011 21:59

No news is good news- it's notoriously patchy for mobile signals there.

KaFayOLay · 03/09/2011 22:02

I did say they, it isn't they it is he.

It isn't an organised event, he just fancied a bit of solitude after 2 weeks at home with us (his family).

I won't be ringing mountain rescue as I really have no idea which route he took, or which camp site he stayed at.

He did do Hellvellyn earlier in the year. He isn't an experienced walker but he isn't stupid either, he wouldn't take unnecessary risks.

I know the camp site didn't have a signal, which is why I expected to have heard from him before he got back there.

He's probably in the pub toasting his record time up and down the hill.
He'll be getting his ear chewed tomorrow, that is a dead cert!!

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MonkeyJungleConga · 03/09/2011 22:05

I'd still be calling them. It's almost 3 hours after you were expecting him back.

Does he have form when it comes to not calling after his hikes?

Beamur · 03/09/2011 22:06

Your DH needs to take safety a bit more seriously in future - even though these places are well known they aren't risk free. If going solo, he really needs to let you know exactly where he is staying and where he is going and to ring in and let you know he is safely back.

Talker2010 · 03/09/2011 22:07

TBH I am concerned now, never mind you

I would be calling authorities ... if only for some reassurance

TheMagnificentBathykolpian · 03/09/2011 22:08

He's very daft. It is basic safety procedure to make sure that someone knows the route you are taking and knows, roughly, when to expect you. - And for you to be carrying some form of requesting assistance!

In future, make sure you've got all the details.

And when he gets home, give him a slap

KaFayOLay · 03/09/2011 22:09

He's normally pretty good at calling tbh. He is a thoughtful guy.

Anyway, I now feel daft for having started this thread as I guess he is fine out there somewhere.
But, he will still have his failings pointed out to him when he finally rolls in.

I have an early riser in the house, so I'm off to bed and I'm going to try and rid my mind of any concerns (I hate the word worry).

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create · 03/09/2011 22:10

In that case KaFayOLay he's being really inconsiderate.

Do you know which village he was staying in? Wasdale? Seathwaite? Could you phone the pub? They'll give him a right ticking off for not leaving his route and not letting those who needed to know, he was back safe.

Is it possible he thinks he's text you, but the message didn't get through because of the patchy signal?

Mountain rescue would know if they've been called to any incident in the vicinity. They will lecture explain about the need to make sure someone knows your route and time to expect you back though.

Beamur · 03/09/2011 22:10

You're not daft - I'd be concerned too if I were you.
Hope you get some sleep.

KaFayOLay · 03/09/2011 22:15

I must say, I can be as blase (can I put an acute on top of that e somehow?) as him, I go off all over with my horse and he doesn't know where I am.
I haven't had an accident yet but I guess I should have some sort of ID on me in case I do.

I'm wondering out loud now if he told them at the camp site where he was heading. Hmm, it might have come up in conversation.
He might even have hooked up with some other walkers and taken a longer route.

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