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AIBU?

to think this is a bit cheeky?

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graceandbeauty · 04/08/2011 14:55

I've recently moved house and met a new bunch of people. I've also just been away for a few weeks visiting family overseas. I arrived back yesterday morning after a very long trip. I sent a text to my neighbour asking if she fancied popping over for coffee and a catch up - she said she was busy today but could come over tomorrow morning - fine. I've just received a text sent to everyone in our bunch of friends (and to me too) saying "coffee morning tomorrow at graceandbeauty's house".

I think it must be a misunderstanding but I didn't plan for 6 or 7 ladies and don't have anything to give them! I just meant for my neighbour to come and spend an hour but now she's told them all and I don't have the car tomorrow to go and get anything! Now wondering if I should say something but it looks so picky.....AIBU?

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molepom · 04/08/2011 14:58

Say something or risk being walked all over time and time again. She's taking the piss and I would trust her again with anything to be honest.

ImperialBlether · 04/08/2011 14:59

That is REALLY cheeky!

Send a text to everyone, including your neighbour, saying "There's been a misunderstanding! I'm just back from holidays and have loads to do and no food in. Let's make it another time soon - I'll be in touch."

Columbia999 · 04/08/2011 15:00

What a nerve, inviting half the neighbourhood on your behalf, the cheeky mare!

alarkaspree · 04/08/2011 15:00

Text them all back saying 'and cakes are on cheekyneighbour!'.

Yes, it's odd but unfortunately you will look unfriendly if you tell everyone they're not welcome after all. I would let your neighbour know that you weren't planning for a whole party and that she's going to have to step up to help out with refreshments though.

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graceandbeauty · 04/08/2011 15:05

Exactly, I don't want to look unfriendly especially as these are new friends, AND we do often, but not always, meet up altogether. Maybe they are more laid back than me and can throw things together easily. I think I'll go ahead but somehow let them know it's not what I had planned, and hope they all bring something....

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Rhinestone · 04/08/2011 15:06

Take it as a compliment! You've only just moved somewhere and you already have a bunch of people who want to all come over and see you and a friend who obviously considers you and her good enough friends that she can be this cheeky!

Alternatively it was a misunderstanding and she thought everyone was invited? Is that what normally happens with this group?

I'd go with the flow on this occasion and enjoy.

Rhinestone · 04/08/2011 15:07

X-posts. Just get a few packets of biccies, sit back and enjoy and everyone will think what a welcoming fun person you are.

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graceandbeauty · 04/08/2011 15:10

I assume it was a misunderstanding. We often all meet up at someone's house. But I feel my neighbour should have checked with me before inviting others.

Just realised there could potentially be 10 kids. Eek.

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Rhinestone · 04/08/2011 15:11

Likewise Gissa, come on over! I am a catering-phobe and even I can cope with opening a few packets of choccy chip biccies!

graceandbeauty · 04/08/2011 15:12

Actually after re-calculating make that 12 kids.

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graceandbeauty · 04/08/2011 15:13

I do have plenty of wine actually. If we start drinking at 10am maybe no-one will notice the kids and the fact that there is no food.

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qwepoi · 04/08/2011 15:15

I'm very jealous! Would love to have a friendly neighbour and a bunch of friends to pop round.

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Rhinestone · 04/08/2011 15:16

Oi, whole of Mumsnet, wine morning at graceandbeauty's tomorrow! I'm inviting EVERYONE!

grace are you an army wife by any chance?!

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graceandbeauty · 04/08/2011 15:17

Well as it's school holidays I'm assuming they will all bring the kids. A couple of them have nannies/au pairs so might not.

Can't get out to shops - no car. I can make popcorn. Is there any kind of cake/biscuit you can make without butter - I have eggs, flour, sugar, milk.

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evenlessnarkypuffin · 04/08/2011 15:17

Can you get stuff in this evening? If it's a one off then I'd give her the benefit of the doubt.

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evenlessnarkypuffin · 04/08/2011 15:18

Who has the car? Supermarkets stay open 24 hrs, so they could always pick up butter.

OTheHugeManatee · 04/08/2011 15:19

Send a text back to everyone saying 'Looking forward to seeing you all - but am just back from hols and have nothing in, please bring cake'.

graceandbeauty · 04/08/2011 15:20

I can't get out at all so will have to manage with what's in the house which is not much! Drinks will be fine, but food will be apple slices/popcorn for kids....and mums!

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