We have a very small front garden with plants in it. A couple were affected by the cold winter but still had some green so we were hoping they would pick up, we need to put some more bark chippings down (something I told my neighbour 2 weeks ago that we would do once we returned from hols), and there were 2 dandelion weeds growing. Basically it needed a little tidy but nothing major.
My neighbour is moving abroad in October and is planning to rent her house out. An estate agent told her that she owns part of the front garden as it lines up with her house. Our deeds are vague regarding this but as it's only 2 feet by less than a foot that she owns I'm not bothered. She put weed killer on our dandelions (which didn't kill them but she told me afterwards) and slug pellets to kill the snails which left about 10 empty shells (all on her newly claimed land). She thinks the snails (which are all up the road of more than 100 houses) are coming from our plants and they are getting under her front door! There are lots of snails round here but her door can't fit if a snail fits under it!
On returning from holiday last night she arrived on the doorstep at 9pm to tell me how messy the garden is and how it will stop people wanting to rent her house. I told her that we planned to do it next weekend but just got back and in laws are still visiting. (it really didn't look hideous at all and I wasn't bothered by the 2 dandelions as dd (3) loves them).
This morning I saw her and said hello in an attempt to avoid bad feeling and she started repeating the conversation and reminding me how she helpfully picked up the empty snail shells - that she had killed with pellets she put down. At 32weeks pg with twins I hadn't picked them up as bending to put shoes on is hard enough.
We are quiet neighbours (as she's always told me), don't have parties etc but this stress is not what I need with the twins, plus dh has a broken hand so no, gardening is not at the top of our list. dh commutes 2 hours a day for work so fine, the garden doesn't look tip top but it's better than many I've seen.
Sorry for mamouth essay. Basically she wants us to gravel the area (like she has in the back and front). She said if she was staying she'd put a little boarder along and gravel her bit and I said I'm happy for her to do this, but she then said "oh, but it's money isn't it?"
She's making us feel like the "chavvy family bringing the neighbourhood down" I barely slept last night going over in my head her rudeness and how upset I was by her manor.
Really I want to know if I'm in the wrong - please be gentle x
AIBU?
to be seriously wound up by my neighbour
PrincessScrumpy · 31/07/2011 19:50
I have twins and can remember just how big and uncomfortable I was at 32 weeks so if I were you I would tell her that you have much more pressing matters on your hands and that if she is that bothered about getting a tenant then she should sort the garden herself!
Seriously dont even think about it, you need all the rest you can get at the moment, so dont go losing sleep because you live next to a loon 
silly cow,i was hassled about my trees all thru my last pg,it was the flaming winter hardly gardening time. I just ignored her,if she is that bothered then she can do it herself.
I love the rusting car idea,how about some old bike frames,a tin bath and some broken toys too 
"An estate agent told her that she owns part of the front garden as it lines up with her house."
I would be VERY 
about that.
I've heard it before, but I'm not sure it's true - it certainly isn't in the case of my parents' house as their deeds showed otherwise when checking on the positioning of a new fence.
If you think about houses which are positioned on bends, for instance, it can't be true as you would own bits of each other's gardens. 
"It is not an estate agents area of expertise to denote boundary lines."
Which is exactly why I'm saying I'd be about it.
The OP said that an estate agent told the neighbour where the boundary lies based upon it 'lining up' with the house.
If you own your home, I would ignore her, and tell her politely that you cannot be doing gardening in your present condition. If you rent, I would make sure she doesn't contact your LL, because she sounds just the sort that would cause trouble for you. I don't see how she can own part of your garden though
Good luck with your new arrivals
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"It is not an estate agents area of expertise to denote boundary lines."
Which is exactly why I'm saying I'd be about it.
The OP said that an estate agent told the neighbour where the boundary lies based upon it 'lining up' with the house.
Shelly I was agreeing with you.
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