it has been 5 years since I had sex with anyone....mainly because I was very hurt by my exH who had an affair and hid it for a long time. On top of this he was making expensive calls to telephone chat lines...an addiction which predated our relationship.
So....after 5 years of separation I have suddenly experienced an awakening of my libido which I thought had gone for good.
A friend has been wanting to set me up for am long time with a friend of hers who has been supportive to her over the years (never been in a relationship with him). Anyhow this increase in libido has coincided with yet another of her matchmaking attempts and by now I have noticed that he has very nice eyes
But....he has been vey badly hurt in the past and has said to my friend that he really does not want to get into a relationship... Fair enough...
Then today, out of the blue, I got a message from him via Facebook (we are not FB friends so he must have searched for me through my friend) saying he hoped I was not offended by his response the other day. I answered to let him know it was fine and that our mutual friend had just worn me down with her matchmaking and saying that after 5 years it was perhaps time to get "out there" again. He replied that he thought I should indeed get out there and enjoy life again.
So....throughout the day I have had various messages frm him culminating in an offer of a massage with sex just being optional.
I know he is nice, I know he has been badly hurt in the past and perhaps fears this again.
But......I am sorely tempted by the massge ( sex optional apparently.......oh yeah). I have never been a "one night stand" girl though and this worries me a bit. But...not to put too fine a point on things....I am gagging for it and this is why I am tempted.
Am I being unreasonable in thinking I could just go for it and see where it leads (if anywhere). Other people have these "friends with benefits" don't they? Am I being precious in wanting more than this?
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To be considering a "no strings" evening with someone.
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memeandmine · 28/07/2011 20:41
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