Hi everyone,
Am new here, heard of MN on the grapevine and there seems to be generally good advice on here so thought I would post my current dilemma!
This year I have been to South Africa three times for business and personal reasons, while I was there I met a lady from Zimbabwe - she was renting a room from another friend's uncle and when visiting the uncle me and this lady hit it off straight away, she is very funny and easy to talk to. Her children also warmed to me and they soon started calling me Auntie and I in turn took them to the mall, movies, theme park etc.
A couple of weeks before my last trip there which was about a month ago her mother passed away in Zim and she asked me if I could come to the funeral. I couldn't drop everything what with family and work commitments but I did see her in South Africa during my last visit. She was very keen for me to come to Zim and I agreed I would next time as she seemed in need of comfort and rather lonely in South Africa. I was meant to be going to Amsterdam in two weeks and so thought I would tack the trip on the end alongside a voluntary work course.
However, I'm now rather put off the idea for a few reasons: not only is it a LOT of money for the ticket, she's going to expect me to buy them stuff all the time when I'm over there (the kids actually list presents they want!) and now she's bringing up the lawyer costs of her mum's will $500 which she "doesn't have " and I assume she thinks I will donate...they seem to assume I'm made of money, mean I'm comfortable enough but it's not a bottomless pit! Although I'm happy to help with small bits and bobs I have got my own kids to think of. She also mentioned me being able to help her to "cross" into London/A'dam which under no circumstances do I want to be involved with and that she wants to leave her husband permanently as he's always broke.
How do I get out of this one without disappointing her and her kids? Is that fair to go back on the promise of the Zim trip? Please let me know your thoughts! I don't have to do the work course, so it's easy to get out of, it's only this that's the issue.
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...not to go to Zimbabwe after all even though I promised my friend and her children?
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amsterdamster · 29/06/2011 19:57
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