Name changed for this, and its long sorry, but this is eating away at me today.
I'm working mad overtime ATM as I am currently working my notice in one job while having already started another, and when I got home sunday DH hadn't done the cleaning as promised and had instead spent all day on the bloody ps3 there was a bit of a row. We have a postage stamp of a place so after a few minutes I make him leave so I could calm down at him.
He also hung a damn sheet over a picture without thinking so I was livid as it had to be chucked out, so may have been a bad row but it doesnt happen often, infact we only row about him being a slob. And I conceed it may have been a bit louder as I was so exhausted and at the end of my rope. Anyway last night we are coming in from a night with friends and neighbour is locking up for the night. Now I was polite and did the sort of smile and head nod and she started laying into me.
Now I apologised unreservadly for the noise but thats not enough apparently. We are ruining whats left of her life with our constant rows, my husband or I obviously beat the other (WTF????) and shes going to report him to his vicar (again WTF????). Also very very annoyed that DH wouldnt talk to her other than to say sorry and I dont want to talk now when he was on his way to the car after me asking him to leave.
Where is it written that he has to talk to her about why he fights with his wife? He said sorry about the row/noise surely thats enough info for her. And for what its worth me and DH tried to think of the last time we rowed and there was snow, so constant is a leap!
Now AIBU to think that a married couple occasionally rowing is a fact of life, just like in her case her visitors slamming the door so loud my windows rattle and their kids making horrendous racket when they visit. I've never once said anything because, as much as it annoys me, she has the right to visitors, and while they make horrible noise they do so at reasonable hours, and this building is a alittle crap in construction.
She starts on me over EVERY little noise and reported me to the landlord over "alledged" breaches of the tenancy to try and get me chucked out. I've tried to be nice and its been better lately, but one row and we are satan. Its TMI but in honesty its affecting our TTC as im nervous to have sex incase the bed creeks and she complains, thats how bad she has been in the past over things like walking arround at 6.30, you know getting up and going to work! Not to meantion the screaming and treatening to set her kids on my over the noise the landlords builders were making when repairing our place!! And DH is really upset at being labeled a wife beater. AIBU in thinking shes out of order in assuming that and her extreme reactions to noise during the day?
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to think that rowing occasionally with DH is normal and no one elses business?
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mrsballandchain · 22/06/2011 12:08
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